That is only less than a year ago, so give yourself time. You will feel lots of sad emotions this is natural don't push them away just deal with them when you can preferably daily. If you feel like pursuing new interests join some meet up groups. To meet people etc but if it's too much for you do it when you feel stronger.

I've been having dreams about trips we took and the good times. Causing allot of lonliness.

Sometimes it helps to remember the whole package included much more than just good times. Just as you must show restraint in preventing wallowing in self-pity and pain, so too do you have to have self-control in looking at the past with her through rose-colored sunglasses. One day the good times can be remembered without the negative feelings (missing her, loneliness, regrets, etc.), but until your emotions attain that stability, you have to be disciplined. Stay focused on the blessings right now, and look ahead for more to come. Praying for peace in your heart.

I know, I was always wondering which ex she was talking to on facebook. It was a constant concern. She was always talking about her ex's. I told her our marriage was "crowded".

Wondering, will only bring you down, and will keep her having control over you. And yes, keep you lonely. It's way past time to let that one go. Sorry if that sounds harsh. But I've been kicking that one around myself. Husband had an emotional affair, said he stopped but he still has secret texts. We just just confirmed divorce last week.
Doesn't sound like your letting her go. Your still holding on. My husband told me over a year ago he no longer loved or wanted me. I wanted to see if we could reconcile, and then he proceeded to drag my heart around with tidbits of false hope. And now I have to accept he ain't good for me. He will never want me back. Regardless of my knowing or not knowing who he's texting. That could possibly make it worse by bringing up feelings of the woulda, coulda, shoulda"s. That doesn't do any of us any good.
I'm sorry your going through this, and that your still hurting and lonely. See if you can get yourself involved in some group thing. Get use to getting out there, before thinking you need to find someone else. I personally will need this advice back in about 6months. :) hang in

You're right, thanks

You guys are right, I do keep dwelling on the situation and it doesn't help my mood any. She made her bed and she's dealing with the consequences of her constant lies and underhanded deceit.
And yes, it makes me angry that she stood before the alter and promised God that she would be faithful to me and our marriage forever, Forever lasted 6 1/2 years. Not even that long.

Notwhatithought,
Sensing some gumption there. Sounds good. Hope it feels good. Taking control back of one's own life is powerful stuff. :)
God knows you. He knows her. She strayed. You didn't. He knows your doing the best you can. And He wants what's best for you . And yes, try to stick with the positive thinking. It's a process but stick with it, and you will see a change.
Good for you on your gumption. Stay strong. You got this.