I do think its solid advice.

Keeping busy also helps.

The hardest part is letting go. Everything after that is amazing.

I'm warning you though, it is going to be really difficult. You will have heart ache, your mind will go a million miles a minute, you will lose sleep. You just have to remember to hang in there it gets better. IT GETS BETTER. I know you aren't going to want to forget this person and the thought of that right now will worry you but by the time you realize you will be just fine, you won't even want to bother with her anymore. We are all here to support you. Whenever you feel like you are going to lose it, log on. We'll hold you up until you get through this.

What happens if she doesn't come back? Just curious. I just don't want you to get your hopes up that she will come back. I am not saying she will but i would be respectful to give her her space right now with no contact.

Not for her but for you as well. I find it is best. Good luck!

she may come back. but, you must not cave. you must make her totally accountable for her end of the relationship.

until then, you might ask yourself why you have chosen a woman who tends to get cold feet. there are many women who can and will commit completely without hesitation to a good man.

Floataway is absolutely right! No Contact is the best thing right now...AND the hardest thing. If you can get through the first 2 weeks, it gets easier...I know, I am there. I could not get through the first 2 weeks, but I have had no contact since December 26th.

I want him back more than anything, but I am using this time to prepare myself for the "what if" he doesn't come back. Just focus on YOU right now!
((((HUGS))))

I wouldn't hold my breath. Besides, why would you want to be with someone that is putting you on the back burner? It really stinks that you have to go through this. It will be very hard, but you need to move on with your life as if she won't be back.

For me I think of the saying Absence makes the heart grow fonder, when you are not around she could start thinking how much she misses you. In my case I am hoping for the absence makes the heart forget!
Maybe give yourself a time like say a week and then give her a call just to let her know you are thinking about her and wondering how she is doing etc. From that you could get an idea of where she is at with the no contact thing.

I think NC is best too...the advice i was given was to give it at least 30 days NC and then make short and sweet contact...and to not talk about the breakup or the relationship, just be together enjoying the things that brought you together in the first place.

The other piece of advice I got that helped me feel more in control, less frustrated, and have the ability to move on was to send the ex an email saying "I agree with this break up. I have a lot to think about so I would appreciate it if you would not contact me. I'll be in touch when I am ready,"

I sent that to an ex after skipped a date and then ignored me for a week. None of my other texts were replied to, but he did reply to the above email. At least I knew he was a jerk and not killed in a car accident or something!

I have been NC for more than 30 days and I don't even want to contact this guy anymore. And I have been working on me the whole time. Not one ounce of time wasted there.

Best to you!

I too am in the first two weeks of separation. I was married 13 years and have two kids. Hearing that she wanted to separate is more pain than I have ever felt in my life. I have never felt more alone. It is so hard, being the one rejected. How do you let go, I can't sleep, eat nor function. I know I have to be strong for the kids. When you let go do they really ever come back, or is it more for yourself to feel less and less of the pain?

If you love some one
set her free.
If her love is true,
she'll come back to you.
If she stays away,
love wasn't meant to be.