Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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starttoday7 05/22/2017

I have been with a woman that I have loved more than any other woman and with all my issues she broke up with me again... Saying she doesn't know if we will be back together I sit here devastated at the thought of not being with her... How can I get out of this slump and really fix myself if she is constantly on my mind???

Anonymous112211 05/22/2017

The first thing everyone here says is go no contact. Do not call. Do not beg. Do not try to reason with her. It makes you look desperate, and needy which is very unattractive.

Sounds like you need to get out and do things with others. Join a support group. Go to counseling. Join Meetup groups.

I can tell you yesterday should have been the worst day every. My 12th anniversary. I did not sit home depressed. I met up with a group of single hikers on meetup, met a very nice woman to speak to during the hike. Then later that night met a person from Tinder.

I am not ready to start dating, but I was ready to get outside my comfort zone and start talking to people. Making new friends. Interacting with new people.

Make your Ex miss you. Make her wonder what you are up to. Make her desire you.

good luck and hugs.

starttoday7 05/22/2017

Thank u!!! That's going to be damn hard tho lol....

sjs777 05/22/2017

have a look at the 180 method in my journal, but realize that any change must be done for you as they should be long lasting and something you're happy with in keeping with you. distancing allows you to work on you while stopping the damage in a relationship

stop nagging, begging, fighting, convincing as its only pushing them away faster and validating their decisions. these are also very unattractive qualities

starttoday7 05/22/2017

Thank u she!nn

sjs777 05/22/2017

when you say "with all your issues", are there things you have to address to show yourself you've changed for the better?

starttoday7 05/22/2017

Definitely... Jealousy... Insecurities... Didn't work all year... Irresponsible... Unaccountable... I've held on to things since my childhood and until yesterday I never opened my etes to realize I was still letting it affect me 25 years later.... Ugh...

sjs777 05/22/2017

hold it.... list those things, recognize what you want to change, for you, and devise a plan to address them. no doubt you will see huge gains in self happiness. this by the way may also pique your partners interest, but even if it doesn't, you've grown through it all and found inner peace. this is all a learning process, a rebirth, a new you. by the way telling her you've changed is not what to do, let her discover so on her own, now thats eye opening and very attractive.

paiste7 05/24/2017

I agree with no contact. It seems impossible and I can't say I have always accomplished it, but I do feel it is all we can do.

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