I think the key to successful dating is to ask oneself "what do I have to offer?" "Am I marketable?"

Because, dating is basically a interview for the job of potential partner. Dating is the process of determining whether or not both parties meet the needs and "job requirements" of the other. And whether or not that person meets your needs and requirements.

Another question to ask oneself is "Am I emotionally ready for a relationship"? Many times, dating is unsuccessful because one is not really ready for the demands of maintaining a relationship. Many times, one doesn't want to be alone, but is unable to (again) offer what their potential partner may need.

I don't think any group of people have the monopoly when it comes to finding new love.

Wishing you success in your endeavors.

You need to focus on yourself, you need to be present in the world.
Hit the gym, open a book, listen to the top 10 or all the music charts, check your job and career direction, check your home/living space.
Are you living the life you want to live? You have to be strong, wise and independent.
I would suggest you stop trying to date, stop needing to date.
Stop coming across as needing someone to fill that void.
Dating it easy, its the way you come across that is hard.

Ya I’ve done all that already I hit the gym 3 times a week I work a lot and have no friends. So looking for someone to spend time doing something rather then the same old work grind. Which get boring comeing home every night to same old routine.

You’ll never truly get over your spouse. That’s along time to build you life with, and now without. It’s an empty gap and you feel a void. Well you’re right there is a void. You can’t just fill that void until you can manage to make yourself happy. Try something new. I’m going through separation phase and i started rock climbing hitting the gym and reading. That’s all great advice. If you can’t be happy with yourself, you can’t expect someone else to be happy with you. It’s like a disease people can pick up on things no matter how much you hide it. I’ve been hiding happy face for almost three years after my wife’s first affair. I’ve come to the conclusion she’s making a mistake and I told her she would regret it. Well now that I’m finding myself again. She’s trying to mix herself back in and throw negative comments at me. You’re not going to the gym. You don’t look good. Selfish people try to make you feel bad about yourself. My suggestion pick up something you’ve always wanted to do, learn to play the guitar, take up axe throwing. Go back to your early days, things that you wanted to do before marriage and find yourself again. Then after that you’ll know when the time is right. If it helps I take 30 min a day to cry, yell, dwell on the passed. Then I get back to me.