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I have been a wierd funk lately and I can't put my finger on what is causing it. Last night was a bad night at work and I had to deal with something that I will never be able to forget. My stbx called and told me the good news about her filling for divorce (she thinks that it is good news that she has found a lawyer friend of ours that will file the divorce and only charge her the filing fee). I have been living on 4 hours of sleep a day. There are numerous internal stresses going on at work right now that I can't go into but they don't involve me but they bother me and there are some other things going on in my life. Either which way this all has contributed to this funk that I am feeling right now.
What is the best way to deal with things like that? I have to admit that some of this has to be a result of bit of depression that I am trying to stuff into the closet and not show because of the divorce. I keep saying that I am fine with it but the fact that my stbx told me about filing yesterday kicked me hard and I can't figure out why.
I tell myself that I should view the divorce as a lesson learned and that I have a new lease on life because of it, but I can't help but think about what I may have done wrong in the situation still. I know that I did something wrong in the relationship. I was probably hard to live with at times.
Why do we take a step backwards after we go so far? Up until she told me that she was filing I was doing great and since she told me I have just had this Ugh feeling. It is hard to describe but in all honesty I think that I am somewhat depressed.
I swear that I thought that I was over this stage and I had moved on and healed. Will I do this for the rest of my life? That worries me.
What is the best way to deal with things like that? I have to admit that some of this has to be a result of bit of depression that I am trying to stuff into the closet and not show because of the divorce. I keep saying that I am fine with it but the fact that my stbx told me about filing yesterday kicked me hard and I can't figure out why.
I tell myself that I should view the divorce as a lesson learned and that I have a new lease on life because of it, but I can't help but think about what I may have done wrong in the situation still. I know that I did something wrong in the relationship. I was probably hard to live with at times.
Why do we take a step backwards after we go so far? Up until she told me that she was filing I was doing great and since she told me I have just had this Ugh feeling. It is hard to describe but in all honesty I think that I am somewhat depressed.
I swear that I thought that I was over this stage and I had moved on and healed. Will I do this for the rest of my life? That worries me.
Put the guns away. Love yu Heave JUST me
The fact that you want to figure out your part in things is wise. We are doomed to repeat what we ignore. You feel badly because your wife is happy about divorcing you. That is hurtful.
We step backwads because we haven't made peace with it yet. That is our clue we have more work to do.
If you do the work now, you won't be doing it forever.
I would highly recommend you start a meditation practice. See if you have a Buddhist or Yoga group who teaches it. 9Neither of these would be in conflict with your Christian Faith)
When you quiet your mind, you will feel less stressed and you will have the clarity to resolve your emotions.
Peace.
The thing that is strange about this feeling is that it will probably pass quickly and tomorrow I will be feeling fine again. It is like a bunch of things gang up on you at one time and then when you sort through them it goes away quickly.
Still out at the house and never got to the boat. I am debating on sailing now because the fleet has backed off and only one other boat was going to make sail.
Don't worry - Heave's all yours - No one's trying to steal your latest fixation.
Where am I? Is this Heaven???
Did I die????
Where is the light???
Or Is this the twilight Zone!!!!!
*scratching head*
(MK, take your meds)