Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
He was my first boyfriend and it lasted two years, we thought eachother would be the one. The past few months have been terrible with fighting and lying, and I thought many times to break it off. A few weeks ago we did. He was a compulsive liar and I told his family how he was. Now he won't even talk to me and I never felt so alone. How could someone I spent two years with treat me like this? Why can't we just be friends? I can't get the thoughts out of my head especially aroudn the holidays.
Stop and think of your actions and the choices you made. Your angry and hurt right now. The death of a relationship will do that. You both need space right now. Stay away from each other with no contact. He is angry and hurt right now too. You went to his family and said bad things about him. If the shoe was on the other foot how would you feel? Would you feel angry and betrayed? I know I would. Could I be friends with you right off the bat after that? Nope I would tell you what to do with yourself if you tried.
My best advice to you......Give him space, let him cool off, no contact at all, and then send him an appology for speaking badly about him to his family. Be honest with yourself. Dont defend the action as I am not judging it. Just pointing it out. But if that was you, would you really want him to attempt to even talk to you right now?
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