ever notice how time at work goes slow when you stare at the clock all day? concentrate more on making yourself happy doing things you and enjoy and spend less time reflecting on what causes hold back. at first it often helps to fake it until you can make it

I feel like that a lot too but it's finally starting to get a little better. It's been three months.

Daily.

I feel this way too. You are not alone.

I feel this way every day, too =( I dread going to work and I dread being at home. I don't want to go anywhere. Every day and every minute lately has been a struggle. I keep waiting for it to pass =(

Yes. I feel exactly the same way!

I just decided to leave my wife after 6 years together she cheated. Its been a week since i found out and i feel the same. I dont want to be at home and i dont want to be at work and i dont want to go anywhere either because everything makes me numb. the only thing i find comfort in is going outside. go for a walk, go to a park, a garden or anything. also i have been watching good movies to pass the time...is it normal that i feel ok after a week? but then sometimes ill cry. its all unreal to me. it all feels like a dream

It's all grief, seems worse than someone dying. I can relate to your state of mind. You're in the right place with this support group. It's a start.

One minute I feel okay, the next I break down and sob uncontrollably. It's hard. At work I feel so disconnected with everyone else and at home I feel so lonely that I can't even function. I just need someone to talk to, someone to connect with. I don't understand why it is so hard to get.
I keep getting advice 'find and do things that make you happy' 'if you don't like your job, maybe you ought to quit and find something else that you really enjoy doing'.. but how can I do that if I don't even know what makes me happy...or even how to be happy again..

The only thing that keeps me going is that..maybe..just maybe..one day I could make a difference in other's lives.

Stay strong. Eat healthy. Don't use drugs or alcohol to numb the pain. Go on walks and join more support groups, like this one or in person. And find a good counselor.

100%. I hate it too. I don't even want to get out of bed anymore. But I don't sleep at night either. Don't want to go out of the house. Stay home most weekends.

You are not alone. One day I'll be okay and looking forward to the future, then next thing you know I'm crying my eyes out. I used to look forward to the weekends to spend time with my family, but now I can barely get myself out of bed. I keep praying for the pain to go away...

I know exactly how you feel. Today my wife sent a list of things she wants to take from the house (submitted through her attorney) I gave in to many things, but objected on washer/dryer and family photos. I went to buy some greeting cards for the kids, and all I could see were romance and anniversary cards... I just wanted to lose it. I can't believe those cards... simply don't apply anymore :( I'm praying so hard for a miracle.

Oh I remember those early days laying in bed all weekend not wanting to leave my room..couldn't wait to get back to the safe space of my 4 walls. Believe me it gets better. This is all temporary. Go no contact as much as humanly possible (if no kids then no excuses, get everything in order and cut them off)...best way to heal is leave them in your past.