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Why does love hurt so bad?

confusion89
confusion89

I'm 28 years old and am going through a breakup that has completely devastated me, torn my life apart and I've never experienced anything like this. I can't eat, I can't sleep, I can barely function. I don't want the breakup at all. A week before the breakup he tells me how much he loves me and how much I mean to him. Then we get into a stupid argument because I'm stressed over work and school and he calls it quits. I've never felt so destroyed and I don't know where to even start with handling my emotions. I love him and can't imagine my life without him. Does anyone have any advice? 

Gutted
Gutted
I don't believe that he left you because you had one stupid argument because you were stressed. Failing to see and accept the larger more nuanced dynamic that led to your breakup, might be keeping you stuck.
Johnny29
Johnny29
I've been thru this. You don't know how strong you are until being strong is the only option.
WeedPuller
WeedPuller
It is hard to give advice in this regard. Because really the only thing that really works is time.

Until then you have to just hold on.

In order to hold on, well, that varies. For me, I'm in therapy, I'm reading articles about how to hold on, I am hanging out with loved ones and other things like that.

I am still thinking about my ex constantly. I am still crying sometimes.

Surrender to that. Surrender to the fact the relationship is in the state it is in. Try to find YOUR path to peace. Just yours.
bluecoco100
bluecoco100
I'm also 28 years old and broke up with my ex a month and a few days. It hurts a lot in the beginning. I made sure to keep myself busy and do things that I've never done before. It really help rejuvenate me. I keep doing them. I journal, spend time with family and friends. I do things that make me happy. It's going to hurt for a while, but you'll get past the first leg of it. From then on, things will slowly get easier. I'm not saying im completely over what happened, but i have found ways to make it more bearable. Love yourself. Be kind to yourself. You deserve better. You're valuable. Don't forget that.