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why do I feel like this

sadandlonely123
sadandlonely123

long story short: my ex got handsy with my sister in law when he was drunk (non consensual) - I left him after only 5 months of marriage (8 years together). After a month he was already with someone new. I am in therapy and trying to move on with my life, but no where near ready to start dating again. I'm disgusted that he has moved on so quickly and I can't stop thinking about it. I also saw her picture online and now that is in my head (she is very pretty ... he said she doesn't know anything about our divorce besides the fact that it is happening). Any advice about how to get over this so I don't obsess?

speechless1000
speechless1000
I came of social media when I separated from my husband- it's hard enough without seeing stuff that could or could not be true. My first husband cheated & I saw a picture of her & at the time thought she was stunning now I think what a woof woof!!! Remember people filter everything these days! X
Nick2017
Nick2017
its terrible. the feeling of being betrayed. it makes you feel little and lose all of your confident. Like draining all of your self-esteem. it's horrible. i have been through it a few times myself.
as a man i cant really share my understanding with you but just let you know it's human nature to feel that way. Being obsessed with it is nothing wrong. But you got to go beyond that and survive the pain...it's a complicated process but can be done...
MoxiebyProxy
MoxiebyProxy
Hey there. I'm so sorry. I can feel your pain from a distance. First, stay off social media - it won't help in any way, shape or form. Stay in counseling. You need to go through the grieving process and this takes TIME. Finally, give yourself permission to not understand why this happened. Some things you will never know. Let all that go. I so wish you all the best.