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Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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CMondo 03/10/2009

I joined DS because I have severe problems with my daughter. She is turning 20 in May and every day she brings to the table a new disaster. I am married for 22 years and I am getting no support from my husband - which brings me to the strong desire to leave all behind.

After I joined DS my life began to change - I am addicted to the site, I confess. I no longer cry everyday. Inspiration, love and comfort are coming to me in such a wave that I am getting the strength to do what I used to enjoy and thought I could never do again.

So why do I feel guilty for being happy?

deleted_user 03/10/2009

You probably believe deep down that you dont deserve it. I think you are the only one that can answer that question though. Dont ruin a moment of happiness though.

lycesq 03/10/2009

I agree with Nikki. Sometimes, there is a bubble of joy inside of me and I've just learned to go with it and enjoy it. You'll get there.

Lynne

deleted_user 03/10/2009

Because you are doing something good for yourself. ( We are not used to that) sending a big hug!

ChiTownBear 03/10/2009

Maybe because of this greater part of your life that appears to be less then happy, supportive and loving. Instead, it is trying, thank less and leaving you thinking that happy is just an emotion you never really knew to begin with. I know for the longest time I felt that way. I often wondered if I ever really was happy, ever. I mean sure, I got a long with people, went out did things, had fun, had "friends", but happy.. a different thing altogether.

I think when we forget how happy feels or never really knew, it then looks like it is an emotion we think we shouldn't be feeling. It's not normal, we shouldn't be happy based on how our life is or was.

Don't feel guilty and don't push those happy times or feelings aside. Roll with them, continue to enjoy the positivity, inspiration, love and comfort you are now finding and relish it. You deserve to feel happy. Let those that continue to be sour pusses be sour pusses. It is for them to deal with.

be happy!

*best wishes*

deleted_user 03/10/2009

Gosh CMondo I would give ANYTHING if this was my problem. I can't seem to get happy no matter what!

I'm eternally sad.

So I guess think of feeling like that as an alternative and embrace your happiness for today and forget the guilt for all of those who just aren't there yet.

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