Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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mjc522 07/21/2017

So about three months ago my girlfriend and I had broken up and I'm still hurting. Not as bad as I used to but it still hurts. The thing is that this last week I just started a custody battle to try to take my kids from my ex wife because she keeps putting them in unsafe situations. What's weird about this is that even as I'm getting ready to take my ex wife to court I'm still hurting and thinking about the girl I was with a couple months back. It's like being on a roller coaster. I'll be ok for a day or two days or a week then I'll be depressed about her for a day or two days or a week. I was really in love with her and planning to propose then I found out that she was lying to me and had cheated. So I get that it takes time to get past something like that but it's really frustrating because I need to be focusing on my children right now. And what sucks is part of me is still not ready to let go of her.

intrepid 07/21/2017

It is not that you can't let go. You simply have not done it yet. Letting go is a process and yes it "takes time". How much time depends on you. Good that you feel the need to focus on your children. But more importantly, focus on healing and getting stronger. Exercise regularly and do some things for yourself. Your children will benefit even more from a man that is in top physical and mental condition. As for the girl, if she is lying to you now she will probably be lying to you later. The pain you feel now is not as bad as it would be if you discovered this after many years in the relationship.

LeeKay 07/21/2017

I agree!
Consider yourself lucky, you got out before marriage. I've thrown away 24 years on a controlling verbally abusive liar!

mirandac 07/21/2017

Rebound relationships very seldom work out
Well. Let yourself grieve your marriage ending
And heal yourself and your heart first before
Jumping into the relationship arena again.

The healthier You are the healthier you attract
when You are ready to do so.

Good luck with your custody battle, your children
Are whats important right now. Sounds like your GF
Had some issues and red flags you did not see. HUGS

mjc522 07/21/2017

It wasn't a rebound though. I didn't start dating until a couple years after my divorce.

mirandac 07/21/2017

I am two years post divorce and no contact
And not ready yet myself. I am not judging you.

I thought in your other write up it said you met
And started dating Her one year after your divorce.

In my case, the worse your marriage had become
the Harder it can be to move thru and to process
all the grief. If I found someone to date before i was
healed up Enough they Would not have been a wise
Or healthy choice for me. HUGS

mjc522 07/21/2017

Oh ok I'm sorry. So I met this girl a year after my divorce but we were only friends for a year before we started dating.

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