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gottabreath 12/29/2011

I have been hanging on to this relationship for 7 years already and I don't know why I keep trying. He doesn't love me I know I don't love him anymore I am not in it for love. I have been so down for so long that I can't get the strength to be able to just say get out stay out and don't ever come back, which I know would not be the case because we have a son that will be 5 years old next Sunday. Everytime we argue he reminds me he wants a plane ticket and wants out but never leaves. He still can't find a job....who quits their job in this economy just because he didn't want to deal with "bullshit" I deal with it everyday and I continue to support the family by myself since April....his mere unemployment check only pays for 2 bills and I pay the rest. I love my house, the kids love their friends I feel like I just need to stick it out for their sake so that they can continue to live the life that they love. I have lost my smile....I barely even made it through the holiday's I don't get excited or look forward to anything...when I see my future and excitement is when I can get the strength to break free from this nightmare I live everyday. When I asked him to help my older son he stomped his foot like a 2 yr old and said no I don't want to do it. He is the most disgusting heartless human being on this earth and the very thought of even looking at him makes me want to vomit....when will I say enough is enough

deleted_user 12/30/2011

your stress is way overboard. you are in serious denial and reality must be faced. if i were you, since you are so run down, i would go see a counselor. tell them your situation. tell them that you need to be told how to get him out of your life, how to simplify your life, and how to get your own energy levels back up to decent levels again.

this post of yours is a desperate call for help. please, please, please call a counselor today and make an appointment.

hurtinandhealin2560 12/30/2011

Yes, I agree with faithful--you must call a counselor. Lots of times it is depression that causes the inertia of not wanting to solve a situation.

Talking with a counselor will help you.

Sending hugs!

Enigma609 12/30/2011

I've been through two such 'stuck' breakups. A much older person told me once that you know it's time when you start walking.

He's not going to do it. Let go of everything. Girl, you got to plan and get up and walk.

Everystep away feel eurphoric.

deleted_user 12/30/2011

I know you think you are doing what's best for the kids, trying to stick it out, but it's not. I grew up in a miserable household, and the day my father left was the happiest day of my life. I was 17. Kids adjust. And believe me, they know you're miserable, and they're probably miserable too. Plus you're showing them what to expect from relationships themselves. It's disfunctional to live that way. I got out after 24 years because I was doing the same thing to my kids as I had done to me. Show them a better way. It's hard, but so worth it.

gottabreath 01/02/2012

Thank you everyone for your comments..I will make an appointment tomorrow...I never realized the depths of my depression....I use to be the strongest woman around, now i feel just beaten down...I will overcome this one day at a time

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