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Why am I the crazy one?

winesar21
winesar21
My ex and I were in a long distance relationship for 2 years. At the end of our relationship he would tell my friends and everyone he knew that I was crazy, and slander me. It was always my fault! I believe he was a sociopath? Since we were in a long distnace he told me that he had testicular cancer and went in to have it removed, he even showed me the "scar" on him. None is this was true. He even lied to me and my family for a year that he had a culinary certificate, and many other lies. Why am I the crazy persoN?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Why put any stock into what he says? Just because he says it, it hardly makes it true. Have you asked HIM why he thinks you're crazy? Should it matter ?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Awwh, winesar21....I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I have a spouse with a very similar problem and I can relate to this on a very personal level. All I can say to you is that YOU know the truth and you cannot control a single thing he says or does. My husband is a master liar and fabricator of drama. He has a need for sympathy, which causes him to need to create a reason to illicit the sympathy he craves. My husband has faked injuries and illnesses, made up stories and lies, etc., etc., to get sympathy from those around him. You MUST realize that this is really nothing to do with you and is a problem in him. You say "ex" in your post so I assume you are no longer with this person. Thank God! You are free to leave this behind and work on your own happiness! :)
winesar21
winesar21
Thank you! I only care because he says things to my friends, and he has proven our whole relationship he lies about all of the little things. I don't need him to make a bad name for me. It sucks to constantly be made to feel like you were at fault, when in reality he's the sick one. No one lies that their mother is dying or that they have a culinary certificate. It is upsetting to go through all of a compulisve liars lies.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are not the crazy one. In the end you really don't want to understand because you would have to start thinking the way he does to understand. Hopefully your friends will break contact with him as well.
bigguy3
bigguy3
Be consistant in who you are .... your friends will know the truth ... you don't need to defend yourself. If they ask outlandish questions based on lies he has told then you can look them in the eye and say, "Does that sould like something I would do?"

Keep the high road. Don't allow his perceptions of reality and his projections of his own problems onto you, affect how you view yourself. YOU know the truth and real friends will know the truth as well.