I have been married for 6 years, started off rocky due to major issues with the in-laws and he only defended me when he absolutely had too. Family situation is now what it should have been back then. We had our first child within a year, then I had had enough with the crap and was ready to leave then found out I was pregnant with number 2, so I stayed, I have always wanted a 3rd but have completely decided against it, at least with him anyways. All our problems boil down to his laziness, laziness with our relationship, laziness with our kids, laziness with our home responsibilities. He turns everything back on me, all excuses, he said well if I didnt say anything to him about the stuff he needed to do that he hadnt and gave him the opportunity to do it on his own he would, tried that didnt work. We both have careers, he may make more money than me, but I actually work more, a consistent 40 hours a week and most important carry the good benefits that cover our whole family, we cannot depend on his they suck. I am tired of being ignored, having my kids ignored, living in a constant mess, because he just wants to lay around on his phone and watch tv and sports. All I want is someone to love me and my kids and not ignore us, I dont ask for a lot. Due to us both working and I have major allergy issues, back issues and a week stomach for anything gross, I refuse to be the sole one responsible for the house up keep. I keep the living room, bathroom, kids room, our room straightened up, take care of laundry for everyone, the only things I ask/expect him to do- is to do 1 load of laundry a day, and that consists of running it thru the washer and dryer and bringing it upstairs, I do the rest of sorting/folding/putting away and then doing the dishes, which I am happy cooking and helping clean up while cooking and after if the kitchen was cleaned the night before. But this is too much to ask. Not to mention he has very bad sleep apnea and when he doesnt use his machine he is a major ass hole to me and the kids and dogs, which has been most of the time the last year. And all along I have told he that I will always be open and honest with him about how I am feeling, so none of this is news to him, I have talked to him and told him many times I am ready for a divorce, unfortunately we are financially struggling, otherwise I am sure I would have been long gone. He has only had his house a year longer than we have been together and when I do talk about leaving, I am a bitch, because my plan is to sell the truck that he drives, that is mine purchased before him, to pay stuff off of mine and get setup someplace to live. His house is his, in his name, he picked it, I hate it, and have no intention of pulling that into a divorce and making him sell it, but yet I am a bitch because I want to sell my truck he uses that might be worth 5k now, to start over, he cant see that me leaving and all he has to get is a vehicle to drive and maybe some house stuff, is pretty considerate, I will have to find a place to live, get furniture, and trade my truck in that is half paid off for a lease to get a cheaper monthly payment, losing the 17k I have already paid on it, but I am the heartless bitch. Not even getting into what I am for me taking the kids from their trashed home, that he ignores them as it is. Since money is an issue, June 1st I told him that everyday I feel like I want a divorce I am putting a dollar in my savings account, so I can have that 200 to start one of the cheapo divorces, in only a month and a half I have 24.00 :(