Im beginning to think that these tears are becoming a regular part of my days. This coming from someone who was very good at controling my emotions. This is a terrible place to be in, I know. But its better to let it out then to hold it in. But instead of the tears being focused on the "whys" let them be sort of a cleansing. Allow them to help you get out all the truth about your situation. Im trying to cope myself so I know that its so hard to manage. We can't let these circumstances beat us. We have to be stronger than whats killing us! It may be a virtual space but Im here with you! *Tight Hug*

I cried for 4 months after my ex left, things had
Been bad for awhile too. It was the finality of it we
Were getting divorced. It was like a shockwave
Went thru me. I had a lot of support groups and
Therapist still did not stop any of my F&E.

Divorce care Does help if you have it nearby. Others
going thru It. Its the grieving and all the crazy during
divorce And separation. Your spouse is now your enemy
That is hard to take. HUGS

That's the nature of grief though. I lost my brother last summer. He and I had been very close. At first, I cried 24/7 for about two weeks and then the crying became less constant. Still, what totally blew me away was how I would be enjoying a moment or a day and then all of a sudden without warning, I'd be overwhelmed by grief and start crying. I never knew when it would sneak up on me. Literally, I would be smiling and happy one minute and the next, bawling my eyes out. I noticed the same thing happening to me in the beginnings of my divorce. Now in my case, I wasn't grieving over the loss of my husband, but there are lots of things to grieve in a divorce ... loss of a dream, loss of your home, loss of companionship. There is also the fear of the unknown, which I struggled with HUGELY and still do to some extent. Getting divorced is like living in a snow globe and all of a sudden one day someone shakes it up. Everything around you breaks into little pieces and starts flying around. I read somewhere once that the reason divorce is so devastating to most people is because it involves the complete loss of almost everything. I know it has for me ... loss of my marriage, loss of my home, need to find new job, need to build my own credit, need to get my own car, need to figure out how I'm going to do this, that and the other thing. There is certainly plenty there to keep you awake at night!