I’m so sorry -- the end of a relationship is never easy, and I know that it’s painful and confusing to be at the receiving end of it. From what you’ve shared, it looks like you’re the one more invested in this relationship than he ever was. Take the time to grief this loss, but don’t linger in sadness -- as tempting as it might. Please surround yourself with loved ones who can be of support to you. Sending you hugs and prayers.

One thing you have to remember when dating, especially outside of your own race, its a culture thing. The values are different and his behavior is pretty clear of that. It doesn't mean what he does is wrong, but that is who is he, how he acts and in his own mind, its ok. I am not sure what race you are and to me it doesn't matter, but when trying to carry on a relationship with someone, their background / ethnicity plays a part in how they will live their life. Especially if coming from a strong belief, suh as the Muslim Faith.

He on the other hand comes from a strong family culture and the beliefs of the roles of men and women and life in general are what they are for his culture. I work around a huge middle east culture and from what I have seen, its classic what you are saying in your summary of the relationship. One of my coworkers, female, talks all the time about eating right, exercising, but her husband only eats junk and doesn't care to do any of that. She is vegan he is a junk eating carnivore. She tells me stories about how their relationship is. Its like she runs everything, is everything for the kid and he doesn't do anything with them. She isn't complaining about it, she seems Ok with it as thats how it is. She just waves her hand and says, "eh, thats how he is." While I sit here wanting to scream, "why are you in a relationship with him!" But its their roles, its cultural and I don't understand it.

So for you, you have to know while dating, you are going to get all kinds. But you have the choice to accept the shit they come with, or find someone that meshes on more levels for you. That when dating outside your race, or even when dealing with those outside your race, their behaviors could just be something that is culturally different then yours. So he doesn't see anything wrong with what he is doing, yet it doesn't work for you. Thats when you put on your big girl pants and make a decision that works for you.

Thank you both !!! @chitownbear.... What you wrote really makes sense , I really don't think he sees anything wrong with his behavior and that is the most frustrating part for me . Thank you for putting the cultural part in perspective .

Good points have been made about culture and like Chitown said, if that is okay with you then no problem. The problem is when it doesn't match the kind of relationship YOU want. You have had a three year trial and should pretty much know now what it will be like long term. I have found you can bend into a pretzel for someone to fit their mold, but in the long term...it gets tiring and you begin to become annoyed and bitter and look at how much you have been giving while the other person doesn't seem too. It looks to me...since you have said you have broken up before, that in your heart, you know this is not the kind of relationship you are looking for. Perhaps it's time to move on.