Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
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So...my wife decided it was time to split last week which is acctually what i wanted also.
She started seeing someone the next day.
Now that sounds bad, but really i have not been emotionally in the relationship for over a year.
Now...the fact that i was replaced so quickly hurts of course..Now theres day's i deal with it easier then others but im just wondering something. Every time i tell someone she's seeing someone they are like, Wow already? Or WTF?!..which was my reaction..But she see's nothing wrong with it, and eventually would like for me to be buddy buddy with the guy. Who's thoughts are flawed here?..I'm really confused about my feelings about her seeing someone already , and that we still live together she's in and out...chatting on msn with em, texting, and listening to lovey music...How should i be feeling?..lol
-Confused.
-Wes.
So...my wife decided it was time to split last week which is acctually what i wanted also.
She started seeing someone the next day.
Now that sounds bad, but really i have not been emotionally in the relationship for over a year.
Now...the fact that i was replaced so quickly hurts of course..Now theres day's i deal with it easier then others but im just wondering something. Every time i tell someone she's seeing someone they are like, Wow already? Or WTF?!..which was my reaction..But she see's nothing wrong with it, and eventually would like for me to be buddy buddy with the guy. Who's thoughts are flawed here?..I'm really confused about my feelings about her seeing someone already , and that we still live together she's in and out...chatting on msn with em, texting, and listening to lovey music...How should i be feeling?..lol
-Confused.
-Wes.
Hang in there and hold on for the ride.
I would put your foot down and tell her that if she plans on carrying on with the guy, she can do so at his place or her own residence, unless there is some reason she has to stay there. That's not being crude, that's standing up for yourself.
I can assure you from personal experience, when you let them continue to live there and they are in love with someone else and carrying on with that person, you are just setting yourself up for heartache and situations you don't need to be in.
And make an appointment with an attorney.
My wasband hangs out with his partners ex husband. They're friends, barbeque together and such nonsense. He has asked me on a number of occasions why I won't be friendly towards his girlfriend.
Um, because I don't fucking LIKE her?! I pick my friends, and because you choose to bang this whore, doesn't mean a damn thing to me. Why would I want to be buddies with some broad that screwed my husband a couple of years before he left.
*sigh* people can be dumb.
This relationship will fail, just as yours may.
There's no closure in yours, so there's no way she can successfully start something with someone else and have it last.
I'd be pissed, but there's nothing you can do but wait her out, if you choose to do so.
For now, don't worry about what she's doing, and seek counsel. Tune in, and tune up yourself, it's all you can do.