There are places like meetup.com where there are groups of common interest you can join and do things with. I actually went to one this weekend and we all went snowmobiling. I met some really cool people / gals. It was so refreshing then the usual dating where its mostly critical people coming in with opinions, judging or analyzing your every word or movement. We have another get together tomorrow night. Looks to be fun.

So I would suggest finding a group and joining. Some are not so active as this one appears to be, so look around and try them out. You will be able to get out and do something you like, in a causal environment. Have fun with it.

much luck

Thank you for some encouraging information...I have been out of the loop for years. I'm not desperate and don't prefer blind dates. Maybe a step in the right direction.

Meetup is safe, and yes, it takes "dating" out of it, so you an be free to be you without constant critcism from someone you're "dating".

It is so much more refreshing and relaxing, to be for sure.

And, I'm glad you aren't desperate. Lots of times, people are desperate and will hitch their wagon to anything, which is very unhealthy.

After me and my ex split, it had been a long time since I had been in the dating scene, so a fish out of water I was. Doesn't mean I didn't try, but man, everything went and still does seem to go at a much faster pace. Society has changed, not sure for the better as its been discussed in many threads here.

So maybe this is a good place to start. Getting out in general and doing something you like to do. meeting new people and fostering positive relationships instead of focusing on the negative ones. From there, who knows, you may or may not meet someone. It all depends on whether you are really ready or not. So just take things slow in general and get to know yourself and renew passions you have. The rest will take care of itself.