Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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rickmarz 04/23/2018

Where do broken hearts go? This is not the Whitney Houston song, this is more of a personal question. Like seriously, where do broken hearts really go? My friends were telling me to attend international dating social event. They say this it’s a good place to go if you’re broken, full of heartache. But what’s in that event? How do they help someone from grief? I need a legit way to move on! Please help!

Cora_Belle 04/23/2018

Broken hearts go someplace to heal. That could be therapy, spiritual counseling, introspection, focusing on self improvement.

Once the broken heart has healed, it would be appropriate to attend an "international dating event", not before.

Petronomicon 04/23/2018

Hi Rickmarz;
I agree with Cora - Broken hearts don't go right out to another dating site/function. That is the rebound syndrome and a knee-jerk reaction to a painful event. You need to get over the loss first, and there are multiple resources. Divorce/loss help at a local church or community service, counseling, speaking with close friends, getting through the grief by exercising, reading, hobbies, and socializing with friends.
Godspeed friend.

rcurtis1010 04/23/2018

Broken hearts take time to mend.. Never rush this as its detrimental to mend a broken heart while having someone elses heart. Never rush making yourself happy because in the end youre going to be the only person there for you. Many people are trained in techniques to learn how to love yourself completely again. I hope this helps <3 message me if you would like to talk

eli_mom 04/24/2018

Hi- I'm so sorry that you are hurting. Break ups are never easy. When I broke up with my past boyfriend, I cried a lot, couldn’t sleep and lose my appetite. After many months, I got through it. I want to encourage you to give yourself time to grieve. Some people heal faster than others. It may take time to be completely healed but you will be alright again.

Talking with a friend that you can trust is also big help. I pray that you will overcome and you will feel better soon. Keep us posted. God bless.

finallyawakenow 04/24/2018

Broken hearts definitely need time to heal. But from very personal experience they also need self confidence. It gives hope that life can be good and that love IS still out there. After fumbling for over a decade to heal my broken heart (cheated on) I have finally been doing the soul work that I should have done all along. Meditation, exercise, reading (no tv!) has allowed me to love myself again. And is giving my wife a chance at happiness too. Burying emotions isn’t the answer, trust me on this. Find yourself. Once I learned to take responsibility for my own happiness every thing else is just falling into place.

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