Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Eshee 01/05/2015

I recently had no other choice but to break away from the man I loved whole heartedly for 3 years...I stood by him through lying, cheating, and scheming....when I finally thought that things were going to go right he left me again for the other woman...the pain was so much for me to handle I tried to slit my wrist...now I can't sleep or eat....days when I still love him and its days when I wish he would no longer be on this earth...can anybody give me some words of encouragement

prettymamakitty 01/05/2015

I'm so sorry for how you are feeling. Believe me I understand feeling pain so great you don't even know what to do. I just started on this website today hoping for some encouraging words, and I already have received them. Try and be gentle with yourself, though I know you want the pain to end.

Eshee 01/05/2015

Thank you....so much....i know someday all the pain will end

Sarasalt 01/05/2015

@Eshee, have you considered seeing a counselor or therapist to help guide you through the grief? Everyone could use a little help processing the pain, and if you've already had harmful thoughts or actions, it's especially important to make sure that you're navigating this tough time in the healthiest and safest possible way.

If you feel that way again, please go to www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org and talk to someone first. They're there to talk and help!

Regardless, we are here for you and we understand the pain. It can be absolutely unbearable. But it does get better - you have to be kind to yourself and remember that you are deserving of love and kindness, and you will get through this. Think about what activities have made you happy in the past, and cycle through them for distraction. Personally, I use Netflix and reading to stay calm, and when I think I might explode I journal on Penzu. The pain is always there right now, but it doesn't stay the same. Small moments are starting to crack through when I think I might be okay some day, and you will get there too. Stay strong!

needafriendplease 01/05/2015

It does get better. But it takes time. Don't let this man treat you this way. It's not love on his part. It's control and abuse. Mine did the same to me. I found the strength in the end. But it's not easy I know., you will get there. You are a person not a doormat. Please don't let him hurt you anymore. Fight to move forward without him. Keep busy . Good luck

Eshee 01/05/2015

Thank you once again everybody...this is actually my first step by talking to all of y'all. I thought that if I find people who are hurting like me it would make me feel like I'm not so alone, and it is actually helping

tizzylish93 01/05/2015

Iam so sorry for your loss. I just joined because I myself am in complete deperation. after 9 yrs we separated hoping to work on things so children didn't have to see us fighting and now he wants nothing to do with me but says he will always love me. I can barely get out of bed, haven't eaten, cannot even function. I stood by him through so much and honestly all he did made me cold and shut down to him and now because of that he cant forgive me. I don't know where to turn and I am looking for any advice or encouraging words. I cry 24 hrs a day and Im just wondering when this pain will start to subside. It feels like a death but worse because the man I love is walking around living life and doesn't want me to be any part of it.

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