Hey everyone, I've been here since 4 years ago when I broke up with my previous boyfriend. Finally mustered up the courage to ask for your opinions on my current relationship. I've never done this before so yay I guess its a breakthrough :) Here goes my story:

We've been together for slightly over two years but I've realized after the honeymoon period faded that we're basically from two different worlds. He's rather outgoing while I am quite the introvert. I don't really talk so I just stand by his side while he mingles. While that is generally fine for now, I can't seem to reconcile our future together. I talked to him about life when we get married. My idea of married life involves wine, just sitting together and chilling together whereas his idea of life after marriage is to spend weekends chilling together with his friends. Even right now, he can barely stand to be with me alone. It takes just 5 minutes before he takes out his phone and starts playing his games (He's 24) and it's straining on our relationship. His defense when I get upset is that he has a short attention span and I shouldn't blame him. Other times, he'll just get defensive and say that "you do this too".

We've tried to do more interesting things together but we're too fundamentally different. My idea of spending time together looks more like walking through the park, sitting by the beach (it's boring to him) while his involves roller-coasters, sky-diving or meeting his friends. Basically him doing the stuff he likes while I just stay beside him (I'm scared of roller-coasters and anything adventurous ). I have no idea why he can spend time with his friends but spending time with me is so torturous when both are just sitting around and talking. It makes me feel like I'm a bore and a burden at the same time.

Another thing that worries me is his short temper. It takes him a split second to go from "I'm just joking" to "Downright pissed". By downright pissed, I mean raising his voice at me even when his friends are around or when we're in public. He has never gone as far as laying his hands on me but I worry about how things will be if we get married. There was this once when his friends were smoking and he said that the smell of smoke stinks. I offhandedly just remarked that that's unusual because he just quit smoking recently so the smell of smoke shouldn't have bothered him that much. That was enough to piss him off so much that he lost his temper in front of his friends and said some pretty mean things. It usually takes him around 15 minutes to calm back down but that 15 minutes is enough to make me feel cornered.

We also talk a lot less than we used to. According to him, this is a part of growing up. Quoting him, "you don't expect me to keep talking to you like we're young kids, do you?". It may be that I really am too needy (yikes) but I talk to my friends more than I talk to him so.... that's not really obsessive needy I suppose? I've also started to not initiate contact with him unless he texts me first for awhile now but that just makes me feel like this relationship isn't going to work out since I strongly believe that communication is the key to a successful relationship.

I've tried breaking things off a few times now but it's never succeeded. He's generally a great guy but these little differences seem a little too much to be reconciled and I feel torn. A part of me feels like we are forcing ourselves to fit into each other's lives while another part of me believes that he's a great guy and I should work harder to make things work between us.

What do you guys think? :(