Whoa and pull in the reins right away. Who notified you that your husband was going to see your kids? NO ONE. So please stop telling your kids about a potential visit or preparing them for a potential visit, when it's probably never going to happen. The worst thing you could do is to whip up your young one into thinking she is seeing Dad, when he has not intention of seeing them. That's not far of you to do to the kids so stop now

Until you are instructed that he wants to see them and you have a date/time/place certain, talk no more to your kids about seeing their Dad, otherwise it's ready unfair of you and your younger one may eventually feel you went back on your work or it was your fault.

Don't call the law guardian again about your husband visiting because you don't push him into doing it. the guy told you that your husband isn't interested in seeing your kids, so let it drop and don't ask again.

You don't want to push this because you are fortunate in a way that he doesn't want to see them. Others here can tell you how fortunate you are.

If the little one asks, then say you haven't heard anything about it and leave it at that and get her busy with something else. That way you aren't lying and covering for Dad and you're not downing him either. Good luck.

your ex really should not have told them in their cards that he would be seeing them then end of this month, but he did and I am sure the kids wanting to see him are anxious to do so. Does your ex call them at all? I would at this point just tell them that you have not heard anything yet, but as soon as you do you will let them know. Once you find out that the visitation is going to go forward, let them know when, where and for how long the visitiation will be. While your ex does not seem like the best dad given he has not had contact with them for so long, try not to put him down to the kids, I see so many parents do this and the kids really suffer. I hope that things go smoothly for you and your kids.

Thanks for your relies..it was the courts that told me the visits would happen,and my husband told the girls in their cards when it would happen..the only reason I called the law guardian was because I hadn't heard anything from the agency providing the supervised visitation..I tried calling my attorney 3 times, once she said she would look into it because clearly she said my husband had heard something,so I should have..then she never got back to me..even after I left her 2 more messages. As the time(so he said) approached for the visitation I still had heard nothing..I didn't want the court to think I was playing games so my childrens therapist who works with the law guardian suggested I call him. Thats when the law guardian told me that my husbands lawyer had told him he had no intentions of seeing girls..believe me..I don't want to push for visitation..I think its best(sadly) that they don't see him,but right now I have to do what the courts tell me. I think you're both right..and just leave it at I haven't heard anything yet..boy..so simple and seems so right. why do I tend to complicate things?? LOL...I've just made such mistakes in the past..ie..letting my children grow up in such a horrible home..that I want so much to do it right now..Thanks abunch for your wisdom!!Best wishes..

I wouldn't lie to the girls, that would only make things worse, and it will only put you in a position to have to cover up even more lies down the road, and the girls may resent you as they get older. I would be honest with the girls, as young as they are, as to why their dad isn't around or doesn't want to see them. Of course be gentle about it, don't talk about him negatively, or put a bad spin on things, because after all, it is still their father, and regardless of your personal feelings for him, they are going to have their own feelings and opinions about him.

It is very difficult to be placed in a situation like this, but consider yourself very fortunate, as most single mothers do not want to have to deal with the ex's or childrens fathers..most of them would be better off without. Just do the best you can with what you have.. Keep a positive environment for the girls as well, and don't get their hopes up about a potential visit. We all know how it feels to be built up and let down. Do the girls have any positive male figures/role models in their lives such as a grandfather or uncle that they could spend time with or look up to?

Kizmet...yes,they do have some positive role models..my brother comes over alot and has started making a "blueprint" for a new treehouse he and the girls will build together this spring..and my brother-in-law has started spending time with them having bon fires,long talks and he has just started date nights with each of them. No doubt about it, that the truth is best and I do know that they need to know that mom will always be honest so they know they have someone they can trust..my problem is with him the "truth" is everchanging!! Plus he lies so much, I never know if I'm coming or going..I'm still learning who he really is and I'm surprised everyday..I feel like I never know what to say as I've been so brainwashed and the clouds are starting to part, but it took me a long time to get here and it will take a while for me to get mentally healthy..how do I explain something I don't get??