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These are the facts of our split. I had two choices: let it go or talk it out..I can't let it go..
I won't talk about the endless fights of before..About his HUUUGE indifference in august, about me wanting to break up in september after I found someone else, about us trying to make it work after that..
I will talk about the LAST reason why he left..
I am sorry to be rambling and I'll try to make it short..
The relationship was finally starting to work, or so I thought, when he decided he needed some breaks. He took various trips and such. Then I told him this won't work anymore, that I am unhappy this way. Basically, he wnated more freedom and I wnated him to be more involved..Then he said: "I need this last break, a few days trip, but I don't want you to call me while I am there. Maybe expect for my call". He said he was going to some guy he met on the Internet and he would stay at his place!This seemed so strange, I became histerical! I asked for the guy's number but he wouldn't give it to me out of silly pretexts!! He just wanted me to let him go on that trip and not call him at all! I felt awful, afraid, betrayed! I told him: you have to choose between this trip and me. If you go I won't be here for you anymore!. he said he would risk it! he went on that trip. on the second day I tried to call him. He didn't answer! When he came back he said that he decided for us to part. He didn't even said it in my face. He did it on the Internet. Then basically didn't care about what I was doing..
Now, he is on another 'trip'. I feel so awful..I feel like crying all the time...Maybe I should have been more undertsanding, maybe I should have allowed him to go on that trip and then take him back.I have tears in my eyes as I write this..I just am not strong enough to let him go :(((
I won't talk about the endless fights of before..About his HUUUGE indifference in august, about me wanting to break up in september after I found someone else, about us trying to make it work after that..
I will talk about the LAST reason why he left..
I am sorry to be rambling and I'll try to make it short..
The relationship was finally starting to work, or so I thought, when he decided he needed some breaks. He took various trips and such. Then I told him this won't work anymore, that I am unhappy this way. Basically, he wnated more freedom and I wnated him to be more involved..Then he said: "I need this last break, a few days trip, but I don't want you to call me while I am there. Maybe expect for my call". He said he was going to some guy he met on the Internet and he would stay at his place!This seemed so strange, I became histerical! I asked for the guy's number but he wouldn't give it to me out of silly pretexts!! He just wanted me to let him go on that trip and not call him at all! I felt awful, afraid, betrayed! I told him: you have to choose between this trip and me. If you go I won't be here for you anymore!. he said he would risk it! he went on that trip. on the second day I tried to call him. He didn't answer! When he came back he said that he decided for us to part. He didn't even said it in my face. He did it on the Internet. Then basically didn't care about what I was doing..
Now, he is on another 'trip'. I feel so awful..I feel like crying all the time...Maybe I should have been more undertsanding, maybe I should have allowed him to go on that trip and then take him back.I have tears in my eyes as I write this..I just am not strong enough to let him go :(((
I didn't love the other guy. It was all a mistake.I was just trying to get out of suffering and heartache. But the truth is I have always loved my boy friend..:(
He hated ultimatums and I knew it...I shouldn't have said that but I was pretty desperate myself..
I can't affrod counselling here and the doctors that you go for free treat you badly..Anyway, in my country, depression is misunderstood.
Paradoxically, i think that's what annoyed him most. The fact that I wasn't more independent.