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What should we do? (Dating)

strumphyy
strumphyy
When i first met my ex, everything seemed so right. I never questioned(at the beginning) our being together, always wanted it to happen.

Now, that I may want to find somebody I am having a thousand questions about dating.

If I don\'t like the guy the first time(I am talking about those butterflies in the stomach), or the second, and he is really sweet and has what it takes, should I give it a chance, maybe it will work in the future?

If I give it a chance, and I still won\'t like it and decide to drop it, will it hurt the other guy?(I don\'t want that!!)

Should we just refrain from dating people we don\'t fall for at first sight, for fear we might have to end it sometime in the future?..

People usually have two sayings, tht I find contradictory when it comes to dating: "give it a try" and " don\'t give false hope"

I am not wondering about the situations where I like the guy and the guy is not that into me. Been there, done that ;))
deleted_user
deleted_user
It\'s just a date not your next partner. Relax and just get to know your date. If your stressing this much before the date your gonna be rattlin your ice cubes.

Deep breath. Your date I\'m sure has all those thoughts running through their mind too.

Look at it like a vacation, you expect to have fun, don\'t overpack and if you get burnt don\'t go there again. :0)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think the thing that we often do especially when it comes to us girls- is we tend to question the what if\'s too much-

I say if you take it slow in your mind- you should do fine- it may take a few dates to narrow it down to one man, that you may consider staying with exclusively.

I just say, take one date at a time.
deleted_user
deleted_user
The above looks like good advice. I\'d like to add that sometimes physical attraction can take time (as a woman), but there are other times when I just know it will never come. I refer to it as "the creepy feeling." Once someone has given me the creepy feeling, there\'s no turning back.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Just go out and have fun.

Something may not go right threw the date where you do not want to see them on a second one but chalk it up to that is what dating is.


Be honest with yourself and the people your dating.

Your not going out there finding your next partner for life. You are out there having fun, meeting new people, doing things you like or trying things you have never done. If something happens from that, then it does, if not, you find someone else and start fresh.