Hello,

First to say is that I really hope that your husband is seeking treatment for his addiction; so sorry for this.

Then for the added thoughts...I expect that you are excited about the possibility of living without him. I agree that you have a wide range of possibilities to this express new way of life ahead. One day at a time is one goal for you. I can understand how this has personal meaning to you. Sound simple, yet there is so very much for you to consider now. At best, seek for positive communications with men and good healthy relationships. Though there is still the labor of freeing yourself from your husband to consider. Courage is required nonetheless. If you really understand why you are leaving him, then you will not risk doubting yourself, so listen carefully to those personal thoughts and feelings. Without considerable thought, we often compel ourselves to less evaluate those dangerous situations. Do make sure that you have a good, careful perspective and a positive point of view at all times.

I hope that all grows well with you in the future!

Congratulations on your new adventure and your new life.You deserve it Enjoy you have my blessings

It can be VERY exciting to finally have your freedom. I remember people asking me if I was going to have a divorce party, or take a trip, or do something big to celebrate. I didn't. More than happy, I was just so relieved to have the daily stresses that his behaviors caused out of my life. I could go to sleep and wake up and not have a knot in the pit of my stomach. I don't need a lot to be happy, and having him out made me happy. Plus, I didn't want to celebrate in some grand fashion and have my kids witness it. He's their father, after all, and they love him. I also was cautious, because I knew he'd still mess with me. And he has. It's impossible to totally remove him from my life, but even in taking him back to court, I'm happy - I'm reminded again that he will never change and what a good decision I made to leave.

Congratulations, and take it slow. You've got uncertain feelings about the root of your euphoria, so consider everything very well.

When my husband left me and our two small boys and filed for divorce I felt relieved too. I no longer waited for his call or for his car to pull up at 2:00 a.m. That was only one of the emotions I went through though. It was an emotional process for me and for my boys. One of my favorite sayings is, “A mother is only as happy as her saddest child.” So true. I don’t wish divorce on anyone. Big hug! Have you heard of DivorceCare? I highly recommend it! It’s offered nationwide so there’s a good chance there’s one in your area. It put me in touch with other women who were going through the same emotions I was and it gave me the tools I needed to start the healing process. Plus while I was in my class they had one for my kids. =) I’ll be praying for you, for God’s divine direction and for peace with your decisions.

Hmm hard to say, if you and you're ex did years of marriage counselling it maybe you are just finished and over.
I married 3 alcholics, each one a bit more functional. I am single and have been for a year. My last ex and I did 3 years of weekly counselling and I continued as I don't want that pattern
Fine to go out and practice dating is what I would say for you. Don't do the physical part, be old fashion and you won't be overly emotionally involved so if you see "red flags" you can get out. Do the Dr Laura dating

I can speak from the position of two years later. Alcoholic spouse who is back to drinking now and wants his enabler back. Um no.. hold strong they don't ever change. Build your own new life. You will be better for it.