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I have been on this board for almost one year and I can't being to thank all of you for your help and support over the past year, I want to share with you some thought for some of you who are asking questions like," how long" "will this pain every leave me?" Here is want I have learned(please take this with a grain of salt...I truly am the Village Idiot)
I wrote this to a friend today and thought I could re-purpose it for the group.
It's been two years now for me and this is what I have learned.......bleed out the grief, cry until there is no more tears to shed......feel the pain right down to your marrow and welcome fear into your life like he was a good friend.....it's only then you can rebuilt and it's only then your victories will never be so sweet because you tasted the bitterness of pain, fear not because you have come face to face with your demons and they don't feel as big and scary as you thought and there is no pain you could subject yourself to that would come close to what you are feeling today
And the last thing I want to say.....be a student who is hungry for the knowledge of themselves, I never stop asking questions about myself....not for vanity purpose but because I want to become a better person
I hope I can someday return the favors so many of you have given me.
I hope you all find peace in your hearts
I wrote this to a friend today and thought I could re-purpose it for the group.
It's been two years now for me and this is what I have learned.......bleed out the grief, cry until there is no more tears to shed......feel the pain right down to your marrow and welcome fear into your life like he was a good friend.....it's only then you can rebuilt and it's only then your victories will never be so sweet because you tasted the bitterness of pain, fear not because you have come face to face with your demons and they don't feel as big and scary as you thought and there is no pain you could subject yourself to that would come close to what you are feeling today
And the last thing I want to say.....be a student who is hungry for the knowledge of themselves, I never stop asking questions about myself....not for vanity purpose but because I want to become a better person
I hope I can someday return the favors so many of you have given me.
I hope you all find peace in your hearts
((hugs))
The wonderful feeling that I am ok, and I can manage to live on my own, and to really enjoy the peace inside and out.
What a total pleasure to come home to a peaceful house after a day at work, and to be able to spend an entire evening without an angry word being spoken!!!
Silence - there is no one else here!!
An absolute pleasure most of the time.......... because if I want noise I can make it myself and it will be of my own choosing!!
I often toy with this idea of writing a book one day about everything that I really needed to know and understand in life, I learned from my divorce.
For all the pain and grief, I am now such a better person. Strange how that can happen.
Yes, I too confirm that my pains were really gone. I'm living a happy single life and I don't expect any thing more.
Good luck to all who are on your path. You'll get there. I promise.
"And the last thing I want to say.....be a student who is hungry for the knowledge of themselves, I never stop asking questions about myself....not for vanity purpose but because I want to become a better person."
I've always had an insatiable thirst for knowledge - but I never really bothered to get to know myself throughout my marriage because I ended up becoming a person I didn't quite like or recognize any more. I guess we tend to gravitate toward people we know we will probably like, and I seem to have avoided myself perhaps because I knew deep down I didn't really like that person. I wish I had taken the time, because I may have been able to see my own unhappiness. Then again, perhaps I wasn't ready to see it.
Now that I have started to ask myself questions and do some of the toughest soul searching I have ever faced, I realize that I like who I am becoming. The woman I am slowly evolving into is a much more enjoyable woman. And when I can finally welcome my good friend fear by my side as I take my first step toward individuality and happiness, I know I will not be alone.
Thanks for posting. It really made me think.... big hugs to you.