Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
That may sound like a stupid question because many of you would respond in a millisecond with “I want my husband/wife/life back.”
But take more than a millisecond and imagine, visualize what you really want that is specific, attainable, realistic… Take an hour, a day, a week to ponder the thought about what do you really want. Specific is important. If you are not specific, you cannot achieve what you want. For example, saying you want to be happy is too generic. Most people want happiness. What is happiness to you? Having a job you love, living in a specific geographical location, a healthy relationship, spending more time with your kids? If you don't specify what you want it's likeyou are on road trip with no destination. You'll never get where you want to be if you don't know where you're going.
As we struggle through this journey called divorce, start focusing on you and what do you want from life? Set a specific, attainable, realistic goal and start making changes to achieve the goal. One day at a time.
Carpe Diem!
again. Thats my big goal right now. I am not
A big one for trying to will myself out of my
Feelings and emotions. That has not worked
for me so far. I honor them also my grieving.
I am tired of all this emotional stuff i Wish it
would all just disappear. My recovery Has had
a life of its own. I never really had any MH issues
now they seem to be my bed fellows. HUGS
I will find a better happier new life beyond
My wildest dreams if i keep it up And walk
Along the spiritual healing path and Do all
the hard inner work that it takes to get there.
I have not walked In those doors just yet. I do
have high hopes though. I do Walk in faith and
have a strong faith in God.
Many that are religious believe that too once
You heal yourself and your your heart. You can
Soar. HUGS
Onedayatayime-thank you.
Before any of this can happen, my primary goal is to get divorced (long drawn out process, thanks stbx). The goal is to get stbx out of my house, which includes getting the new house sold and encouraging him to look for a new place to buy/rent. He is standing in the way, giant roadblock that he is.
BTW, I just knew you were a teacher cleigh. It was the paper chains that gave you away!!
hard to better myself physically and mentally. If I do these things I think I will be happy. Then I will be able to look for someone who loves me but only when I'm healed and ready.
I WILL go camping and kayaking this summer. It is something I like to do. No one to tell me no. It's been 8 years since we last went. 2017 I am going!
Love your goals. A trip to Hawaii sounds amazing!!
thiscantbeit- I don't want a new love either, but I just don't want to continue with someone that doesn't want to provide that either.