That may sound like a stupid question because many of you would respond in a millisecond with “I want my husband/wife/life back.”
But take more than a millisecond and imagine, visualize what you really want that is specific, attainable, realistic… Take an hour, a day, a week to ponder the thought about what do you really want. Specific is important. If you are not specific, you cannot achieve what you want. For example, saying you want to be happy is too generic. Most people want happiness. What is happiness to you? Having a job you love, living in a specific geographical location, a healthy relationship, spending more time with your kids? If you don't specify what you want it's likeyou are on road trip with no destination. You'll never get where you want to be if you don't know where you're going.
As we struggle through this journey called divorce, start focusing on you and what do you want from life? Set a specific, attainable, realistic goal and start making changes to achieve the goal. One day at a time.
I am at a better place with my ex and his wife than I have ever been. I can actually have a conversation with him on the phone and keep my cool. When either one of them does something annoying I just do an eyeroll, chalk it up to them being them, and move on with my life. What I'm struggling with is the double identity crisis. Years ago I went to going away party for my mother when she...
This is a link by Darlene Lancer https://www.whatiscodependency.com/trauma-abuse-breakups-divorce-ptsd/#more-13463 about abusive relationships and moving forward.After reading this and speaking to my therapist by phone today, as I progress through the begining of trauma work I'm finding that this article speaks to 'me codependent' to what I hope to achieve Some Day as 'Me, healed of...