Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Been through quite a bit the last couple of years with my husband. In Dec, I moved myself and the kids for a healthier path away from the alcoholism. In May I agreed to let him back in as long as he was sober. He would talk about AA, how great he feels clean, etc. He came home intoxicated a week ago. I learned shortly afterward he had never left the drinking. I learned he would stay in a hotel some nights to drink and tell the sober living place he was home. He would tell me he was in the sober living place. I realize that the lying fuels the alcoholism, but the betrayal I am feeling is tremendous. I realize that the lying he is doing is the worst to him. I continue with my individual sessions . He is on my insurance which is fortunate, but it is also abusive. He went through a week of detox and is back in sober living. I have my moments so I read, I pray, I spend time with my kids but am still trying to figure out what else to do with my anger. Suggestions appreciated. As I write, I can't believe this is my life, but it is. There needs to be an anger face down on the emojis.
And divorce care. I just keep plugging away working on
It and I went Total no contact after moving and getting
divorced, Hugs
I’m sorry to hear about the real anger that you’re facing. Yes, it’s frustrating isn’t it? Someone whom is so close to you who is undergoing addiction which can sap the life out of the family, finding out later that he was lying. I may be incorrect, but I think there is some sense of hurt isn’t there? It is absolutely normal for you to feel that anger cause you are wanting him to change as this is not right (injustice), you are frustrated as there seems to be no change and sad cause this ought not to be.
Have you thought about counseling? I know you perhaps are thinking that your husband needs it, but to be able to bent and speak out some of these things can greatly help with your stress. When stress/anxiety kicks in our lives, it is amazing how difficult it makes us as spouse, parents, worker or just being in person in general can disorient us. These were never meant to be carried alone.
I will be praying for you and your husband. The Lord is with you. Have faith and persist in the race!