Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
BPII bf broke up w/me last night on the phone. "you are a wonderful person, just not right for me." ok, what am I missing here? I was supportive as anyone could possibly be,went out of my way to be with him when he was suicidal. Now he is on the path he was meant to be on (this is 6 months later), so he says. Going to grad school 2 nights/week. Not working just that. Sees himself making contacts/traveling all over to interview people for his yet undecided thesis. I feel like I was used in a way, and now I am thrown away like so much trash for stupid reasons. (see my journal for details). Am I a fool to believe this isn't really HIM but the bipolar?? Help me understand this because I just don't at all. I even think I love him, how bad is that? I feel so alone right now. All I hear is 'not right for me'...does he know what that even is?
My sister is Bipolar Type11 and she, God lover her, is some times difficult to understand.
First, is he on medication? If he is, it could be the medication either needs to be changed or adjusted.
Second, while you heart is broken and you have shown your love for him by traveling to be with him during one of his episodes, were you willing to live like that, not knowing from one minute to the next what frame of mind he would be in?
You possess somehing very special. Something that I had thought all people were capable of and am finding out they aren't. What makes you so special is you have unconditional love. That says alot about you, your character and your background.
I am sorry you were kind of tossed to the curb, especially over the phone, but I think you may be better off in the long run. If it makes you feel any better, do some research on the disorder, if you havent already. Maybe that will help you understand it (and him) a bit more.
Best wishes for a good night!!