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Confused-trapped 02/02/2017

My husband and I have been married for 30 months. We have our occasional fights but nothing serious. He is a wonderful man. He makes me laugh, he tends to my needs. If he's at the store and sees something I would like he gets it for me, but the spark just isn't there anymore and hasn't been for awhile. We sometimes can go days without kissing. I am not longer attracted to him. We are never intimate with each other, I just don't feel like having sex with him. I'm not turned on. We live together but we don't actually do anything together. We sit in opposite rooms until bed and half the time he sleeps on the couch and I sleep alone. I've been thinking about separating from him for awhile now. He's a wonderful person but I feel I need the romance the connection. Something that makes him my husband and not just my friend. I'm afraid I'm not longer in love with him. I would love any advice.

Samuel2891 02/02/2017

Well have u tried to spice up the marriage? Talking to him. Eventing new things that would be fun for both of you. Befor you call it quits and go looking for romance elsewhwre try new things if that dont qork have a talk with him and divorce him.. plz for his own sanity it will kill him if he finds out while u guys were married u foind someone else.. im not saying your a cheater but if nothing has worked after u tried it.. then divorce him... or take a non legal seperation dont go looking for romance etc just go find your self have fun but keep it strictly faithful. Hard time fall on everybody doesnt mean the love is gone or it is u may never know till u try new things i can teach an old dog new tricks. If you get up and try. You cant teach and old dog new tricks if you just sit there and not do anything... so try first then decide cuz if you lieave him you may regret it later and feel guilty if things dont work then u can say i tried it wasnt meant to be move on no guilt no shame it will be hard and sad but bith of you will be better..

khalia2570 02/02/2017

I've been through the same thing. Have you thought about taking a trip and see if you can rekindle or maybe starting the spark yourself. He may be waiting for you to come on to him. If you let your relationship go doesn't mean that your gonna find happiness in someone else. You can weigh the pros and cons of the relationship. Try talking to him and let him know what it is that your missing or need

Alone 02/02/2017

Talk it put with a therapist. Make sure about this.

Confused-trapped 02/02/2017

We have talked. I've told him so many times how I'm feeling and he brushes it off and pretends like nothing is wrong. There has been no change. We've taken trips and it really does nothing for us. He's never fully there with me. He's always on his phone when we're together or fallen asleep because he's not on his phone. I don't want to file for divorce but I think we need to spilt up and figure things out.

joe14291 02/03/2017

Please try counseling before you throw in the towel. your husband sounds like a good man, and they are hard to find

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