Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
It would've been our 7th today. He's gone fishing for the weekend with his father and brother. All I did since last night was cry, cry and cry. Called my mother, a friend in Toronto, even called my mother and sister in law. I also messaged my old professor and she said I'm still living in the past. She's right and I must be really focused in what's ahead but why it's so damn hard?
Talk to someone who is going to sit with you and listen to your pain. Someone who isn't going to blame you for being victimized.
The other's are basically telling you "You deserve this misery (and isolation) because you haven't moved on. It's your own fault. See? I'm helping by telling you how you are to blame."
Stop grieving with those people as they're just going to set back the process.
It's better not to "forget" the past. Those memories are going to be there as warnings to us in the future. You'll eventually get to a place where you refuse to let the past control or rob you of your future. EVENTUALLY.
Grief, is the proper and natural response to loss and you're going to NEED to go through it. IT WILL SUCK! IT WILL SUCK! IT WILL SUCK! Find the people that will help you do it healthily whether it be family, friends, a therapist or support group.
Find the people that will help you start focusing on the RIGHT NOW. Start doing things that are for YOU. Eat healthy, work out, quit nicotine, join a league, learn an instrument, go to a movie.