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Just wanted to let everyone know that my stbx and I spoked to our kids on Saturday. They are 9 and 11. We both were very nervous, especially the wife. She was getting teary eyed before we called the kids into the room. But once they were there she started the comunicating. I joined in at times, but overally the kids took the news extremely well. During the time
they did not shed any tears. I guess maybe they could sort of understand and tell what we were saying. Since I am going to be moving into their grandmas (my mothers) vacant house they were actually rather excited about that for when they would be with me. I guess part of that being a new experienced was a turn on. They spent the night with me last night and it seemed to go well. Watched some TV and they played some XBOX One. Since this was their first night there they really wanted to sleep with me so to make it easy on them last night I obliged. I know the wife is having a bit more trouble with this so I want to continue to support her and make sure she is doing ok and her feeling are cared for.
Wanted to thank everyone for all their support and encouragement. I continue to stay on this board and use it. It has been a great help.
they did not shed any tears. I guess maybe they could sort of understand and tell what we were saying. Since I am going to be moving into their grandmas (my mothers) vacant house they were actually rather excited about that for when they would be with me. I guess part of that being a new experienced was a turn on. They spent the night with me last night and it seemed to go well. Watched some TV and they played some XBOX One. Since this was their first night there they really wanted to sleep with me so to make it easy on them last night I obliged. I know the wife is having a bit more trouble with this so I want to continue to support her and make sure she is doing ok and her feeling are cared for.
Wanted to thank everyone for all their support and encouragement. I continue to stay on this board and use it. It has been a great help.
I have had many nights that my kids want to sleep with me. I like the cuddling they give me.
Congratulations on clearing such a huge hurdle!
It will have its ups and downs, but that's how life is, right? We take the valleys with the hills.
As hard as this sounds, try to separate your emotions from the business. The smoother the process, the better it will be for everyone.
I also think it's noble you are considering how hard this is for your wife as well. Divorce doesn't have to be War of the Roses. It doesn't have to have drama and spite all the time.
I wish you peace and many hugs
At that age, I'll urge you to spend as much time with them when you have them i.e. go out and do stuff together e.g. movies, snow tubing, go karts, hiking, camping etc
Oh...be sure to take endless pics if you don't already do that, and videos. Sign them up for extracurricular activities that they enjoy so they get to meet and socialize with other kids. Grocery shop with them and get input for food they like for when they are at your place