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ways to handle living together and being seporated

tjfamf
tjfamf
Long story short my wife has decided she wants a separation 8 months ago but we still live together with our three children. She has filed for divorce a month ago and also took me to court to try to get the house and for me to be kicked out of it. She also wants me to pay for all her lawyer fees. Fortunately the judge threw out her case and I can still live in my house and don't have to pay for her lawyer. Unfortunately this is not our first separation 2 years ago we had a seven-month separation but we lived apart at that time. She decided she wanted me back and we had a wonderful two years and then she does this again but has gone further by that I mean she filed for divorce this time. We still live with each other because she can't afford to move out and I don't want to leave my home and my children. I just don't know how to handle this because for the last 8 months she has stated our marriage has been horrible since the beginning but just this weekend brought up staying married but in a very sarcastic and hurtful way. She says that she is not an affectionate person anymore
idontmakeherhapyenuf
idontmakeherhapyenuf
Ours are similar stories. I managed to stall and get her to look at me with new eyes after she signed the lease on an apartment. She never moved out and as you said our marriage was fantastic in the following months. She was talking renewing vows and how we could over come anything g together. Now she is right back to where she was a year ago. As with you she cannot afford to move out and in both episodes the kids were not told. It is painful and exhausting. And for me while I try to save my precious family again so hard not to believe it is an inevitable cycle.

I feel your struggle and pain living with one who has meant so much yet seems not to care about you. Praying for both our strength.
tjfamf
tjfamf
Thank you. It is just so hard to deal with this situation sometimes. I was dreading going home last night because of the weekend conflicts.but she wasn't there. My kids said she went out to dinner with her friends. She only came home after I was in bed. So I guess It was at least a peaceful night.
idontmakeherhapyenuf
idontmakeherhapyenuf
Focus on you and your kids. She will either feel respect for that or be jealous. Both are a big win for you in my book.