Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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babygirlm25 09/15/2014

i have been doing so well the last couple weeks....been feeling strong and confident.

and then today happened....
im a crying mess. I woke up sick today and realize I don't have my partner here anymore to help me...to make me feel better...just to simply give me a hug.

then I started thinking that our anniversary is in a couple weeks...and I just cry more...

what happened to the girl from a couple days ago...who wanted nothing to do with his cheating self.

ALD13072 09/15/2014

This is totally normal! We all have those days where something sparks a memory and emotion. For me once I got past the first year (first birthdays, anniversaries and holidays apart) then those bad days were fewer and far between. There are still days that I forget we are no longer together, for instance a few months ago when I picked him up a new shirt for him while shopping, but I don't cry and have huge emotional setbacks like I did in the beginning. Now I kind of chuckle and move on.

That strong woman is still there...just a small setback.

Maybe start preparing for your anniversary now. Do something nice for yourself that day!

babygirlm25 09/15/2014

thanks ald..

that could be a good idea to keep myself busy that day. ugh I don't even know how im going to deal with holidays this year :-(

neverceases 09/15/2014

Grief is not linear unfortunately. We take two steps forward and then 10 back. I haven't gotten to the 1 year mark yet but so far it's been a mixture of good and bad days.

As trite as it is, time does help because the further I get away, the more the pain lessons. Take comfort in that if you can.

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yougospam 09/16/2014

sorry you are sick, it is kind of an eye opener and know that more things will pop up that will throw you for a loop, just wait it out, you'll get back on track, this breakup crap is just an and down roller coaster ride but with time, we end up on top more than bottom. Sending you hugs and mamas homemade chicken noodle soup....get better and take care of YOU!

babygirlm25 09/16/2014

Thank you guys.

melissa87 09/16/2014

My ex and I split up 6 weeks before our anniversary and I was really dreading it. Would cry thinking about it like you. But when it came, the anticipation was actually much worse than the day itself. I stayed busy and got through it much better than I anticipated I would. I've also been feeling much stronger since. I still miss him and I still hurt but getting past that felt like a personal milestone. Hopefully you will have a similar experience. Let yourself grieve and let the tears come...there's healing in that, too.
Hugs!

milliejay 09/16/2014

It happens - we go through this unstable phase we want to stop but we can't. Allow yourself to feel and be sad, is all part of the process. Better days will come soon.

Be well.

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