I hope you are in therapy to get to the root cause of
Your anger. Many times its very deep seated wounds
from your Childhood and many need help to move
thru their issues.

Your wife probably played her part too generally neither
party is totally blameless in a divorce/separation.

Join a divorce care group it helps a lot with the grieving
And being with others going thru a divorce. I started after
Our Separation began and divorce was on the table. HUGS

Saw your post and wanted to reach out to you.

Just want you to know, it’s not too late. There is hope. You hang in there and continue. I know you must feel terrible and horrible, filled with guilt and shame as your mate is outside of the picture. Look to the bright side and seek help for sure!

My father used to have major anger problem, but have you thought about anger management class? I know there may be quite a few contribution to it, but they are able to navigate and help you with practical tools and resources to allow you to go through some things to overcome that sin.

Praying for you. Feel free to reach out to me as well. Love to talk with you and pray with you.

hi sir, wondering were you physically abusive to wife or mentally/emotionally?

Still having hope of a future get together is great sometimes, but in this case, I think it's stopping you from getting over. I know I'm gonna sound crazy when I say this, but you have to move on! Find stuff that interests you! The worst thing you can do after a breakup is sit there lonely and bored and dwell on something that used to be great! If it's been 7 years, the chance of her coming back is slim! I hate to break it to you, but that "fairy tale" that is in every single movie with the two people reconciling after many years, is very rare! You need to get yourself back out there... That feeling that you will never find someone again happens to everyone, but if you look around, most happily married couples have had some rough break ups in their past. You are definitely not the only one going through stuff. Find friends and hang out with them to make you happy and keep your mind off of everything. I hope this helps! :)

Please do seek help for your anger. This will follow you to your next relationship.

Maybe this is what you both need. It's been three weeks since my boyfriend of six years separated. I can't help but think that we need this time to figure out what the real problems are behind our animosity for each other is. Your wife may just be using this time to help you see that she is worth working on yourself for. If she would have stayed would your anger issues have got any better? Or is her absence the motivation that's needed for you to realize your relationship and marriage is worth it.