Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I haven't been on here much the last 2 weeks. A lot of craziness happening here. It just never stops. Anxiety is back. I'm back on pills for depression and I've done everything I can to improve my well being. Feels like I'm carrying a lot of bricks on my shoulders. Seems like I get rid of one brick and then 3 more get added on.
Still waiting. It's driving me nuts! She never responds to anything my lawyer sends her. Why her strategy is to delay is beyond me. She has finally sunk her claws into a man and according to the kids...she is saying she might move in with him. Yes they've been dating a whole 5 weeks! You'd think she would want a speedy divorce but that's not the case. She addicted to causing me has much grief, suffering and pain as possible. Its her high, she seems to get off on it.
I am ok being alone. I get used to the no yelling and fighting and it is peaceful here. But when rough weeks like this happen, that's when you realize you have nobody and the loneliness sets in. It's tough to over come sometimes. It's tough not to just give up. 8 months and nothing seems to be happening. I'm trying to move forward yet there's this huge mountain in front of me which appears to be impossible to get around. Another weekend here, another weekend by myself. Meh...
long time with no results. The financial settlement
is the biggest part and that all needs to be worked
And ironed out.
At The beginning it is get tax returns and figure all
that Stuff out and the legal filings then it was about
2-3 months later we started on The financial settlement.
That can take awhile if Nobody is in agreement.
Start to finish it was 10 months which is the norm With
two lawyers and courts involved. We had no children to
argue over either.
I am use to the be alone part now. I still do all the things i did
Before just have no partner anymore. I need to step outside
My comfort zone and try new things. I feel like a little turtle
Many days staying in my self protective shell.
One thing while going thru divorce and grieving many people
Are uncomfortable and just want you to be well again. I find now
Many people will ask how i am and look me in the eye to see
If i am telling them the truth. I am much better than i was, i am
still Not cured yet. These types of relationships really can do a
Number on your head and heart. I did not let him get at my soul.
HUGS
We've been separated for less than 2 weeks.
And I didn't inquire about his new apartment. I was trying to talk about a joyous event.
I felt like he was trying to purposely hurt me with that information .
It did hurt. It did make me cry.
But was it necessary? I guess for him it was Right? It's only been less than 2 weeks. I suppose this is his form of keeping away. . . Distancing himself.
It's all in your mind she doesn't control your life, you do. She has no power! You are responsible for how you feel and react. It's all up to you how each day of your life goes. You're a free man even if she stalls for years it is still your life. I hope you understand. Best wishes.