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upset at my dad for ruining my relationships

desty5649
desty5649

my dad is so racist even though he claims he's not but he won't let me date anyone who's black so am I wrong for thinking that he's racist and then I feel like my dad is the reason my boyfriend cheated on me with some other girl and got her pregnant because my dad always disliked him so am I wrong on that conclusion? my uncles a cop and he says I can date someone who is 55 as long as they don't hurt me so should I be mad at my dad for threatening my boyfriend with his gun because I closed to have sex with him online? and lastly who's to blame for my first ever girlfriend leaving me it was just an expirement anyhow am I gay I don't know you tell me


patti22
patti22
If you're under 18, he's got the right to interfere, if you're over 18, it's time to move out and not blame your family for your choices.
Ugginz
Ugginz
Why blame your father for your poor choices?
Kayleen
Kayleen
Your dad cares about you and just wants the best for you. Did he say why he didn’t want you dating those other guys or why he didn’t like your first boyfriend? Perhaps it wasn’t so much their skin color as it was their personality or how they treated you. I know my dad was very picky about who I hung out with, and looking back, now I’m glad that he was.

I feel like dads are even more particular about who their daughters spend time with when they’re an only child or if they are the only girl in a family of boys. A daughter has a special part in a dad’s heart, and he just wants to protect her. That’s what my dad always told me.

Your uncle may seem a little more “liberal” or “freeing” than your dad, but remember, he’s not your dad. He doesn’t have that same sense of protection even if he is a cop - there’s just something about a connection between a dad and a daughter that is unmatched with any other relationship.

Again, with your last relationship, I don’t think it’s important for blame to be placed. Was that relationship uplifting for you? Did you grow in it? You tried it and it did’t work out, and now perhaps that is why your dad has become so protective of you. He doesn’t want to see his daughter in pain. Dating can be a scary experience; I encourage you to seek a neutral, third opinion by finding a counselor anywhere in the United States here: https://ccn.thedirectorywidget.com/