I'm so sorry. I know it's frustrating to see him out and about, spending money unnecessarily when he's not paid up on his CS. Some people seem to forget that you can't just go without taking care of your children....someone has to do it...it's not waiting around until you decide to get off your rear end.

Did you get a pic to put with your growing pile of evidence that this ahole is making way more than he lets on to?

His priorities are all screwed up! Pay your bills then play! What is wrong with some people?

through all the struggles, the frustration, the anger. i hope this comforts you, in the years ahead you will look back and know you made it because of you. the children have made it because of you. i know right now, it's hard. i can't tell you the pride i have in my adult children, it was us (me and the kids). we did it. yes i was fortunate, the child support was there every week as ordered. but i would have gladly foregone it, if my children had the emotional support and love from their father. but they have all built their own relationship with him, and i stay out of it. the first line out of all of them is, i talked to dad, he is such a dork. i just smile. all the memories are remember when mom..... it's so worth it.

Yes, my friends, Im ok. I actually think this is all too funny. It really just validates everything I have been saying about him.

Im not worried, tho. I know I have to do something to better myself to take care of the kids. I already have taken on so much and DID something about it...got them medical assistance, tuition assistance, sholarship fund...I feel really proud of myself for doing this. So, I have to trudge on and keep the chin up and show my kids who the real parent is.

Thanks and hugs to you all.

It still breaks my heart how much he's missing with the kids. Mine pays on time...he'd be embarrased not too, but the emotional support and connection with the kids just isn't there.