Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
So my life was turned upside down two years ago when I finally let my walls down and met what I thought was my prince charming... all those frogs I had to kiss was worth it... well he turned out to be abusive and manipulative, getting drunk and beating me, spitting In my face while holding me down etc... July 3rd I took a lot of xanax, which I am prescribed and drank quite a bit, woke up at my brother in law and sisters house, he had been called to get me from my exs party bc I was a "drug addict" and needed help. My brother in law is such a great caring father brother In law worker husband and person. My sister got so fuckin lucky. I guess its my own fault for not leaving and constantly covering for him and believing his lies that things would change but when they were good, it was short lived. So here I am... starting over again. All I have left are photos memories and diamond earrings he gave me for Xmas. I really thought he was the.one... I just can't see myself with anyone else still... even thoigh my family hates him, and we are not supposed to be talking anymore... I have to lie abt that to, which kills me but I'm tired of my brother In law calling my ex telling him to promise to leave me. alone... am I just meant to be alone forever... why do I want this man who didn't seem to know how to control his anger. What's wrong with me
Dont waste the pretty!
Would you support a friend with a man like this? Would you encourage your sister to be with a man like the one you have described? No. Give yourself the respect you'd give others.
Step two- stay away from the booze when you are on meds. They are not to be combine for a reason.
Pick yourself up, and strat looking forward instead of backwards. Like Bella said, look into getting some help, too, maybe a little therapy, too. Good luck.
Oh and nothing's wrong with you. It's love, and we can't control our hearts, we can just teach them that some relationships are healthier than others.
It takes a lot for a person to get through this and move on to a better life. Many things people already have said are very good steps and actions you can take in order to point yourself in the right direction, and that is anywhere he is not.
Take care of you, always go for more and know, this isn't how one should live their life.
best wishes.
It's hard to let go when you love someone. It's even harder to move on when they don't realize what they were doing to you, was wrong. It's like you're the problem not me sort of thing. I dealt with it for years. Don't try to rationalize 'why is he doing this....why did he do that....why do I still love him....etc'. I still love my husband, though have been trying to get a divorce for over a year now, and I realize he will never change. He have to realize that He WILL NEVER CHANGe. He will continue to want to find ways to hurt you. Talking to him is way number 1. Why do they do this?If I knew I wouldn't be on this site. I'm still dealing with it. Several arrests, jail time, restraining order and gps tracking bracelet later....why won't he move on?Why don't he realize what he's done, is wrong?He's in therapy now too- batterers intervention program. What you have to realize....even if you still love him....your love cannot change him. You have to let him go. You have to stop talking to him. Force yourself out of bed to do things when you don't want to. Get out. Pray. Prayer has helped me through everyday. God's grace and mercy is awesome. Will pray for you.
be strong. It's not an easy road, but certainly the best.