Ur heart was in the right place ,but sometimes our anger and hurt feelings get the better of us and I think that's what happened, because u both love each other it makes it soooo hard and men r stubborn.wish it had turned out differently for u today ,here if u need to vent more or just have someone listen ,sorry u r going through this

Thank you Brandi...i actually tried something that many people have been telling me to do but have yet to put it into action. So last night he reached out after being crabby all day and let it be known that he wanted to come and spend the night with me. It was so very hard to turn him down but after talking with my daughter and seeing that she is still very upset with him i chose not to aggravate the situation and had to tell him it was not a good time yet. He got upset at me and started saying things like well i need to figure out a plan then because i cant keep living like this. Lets just go file for divorce. You can have your rings back. On and on and on...and with each text i would simply say okay...okay...okay...at one point i told him "say what you want to make yourself feel better but i know its the devil making you lash out. I wont react and give him that power."...he never responded but about an hour later he was reaching out telling me he was sorry and he just needed a hug. I know that right now he is angry about the circumstances and it tugs at my heart so bad but i have to be strong!!! I did go and take him some hot chili last night to warm his bones and give him the hug that he so desperately wanted. And he was happy and content with that afterwards...How are YOU doing Brandi??? I am here for you as well....Hugs and hope you are having a blessed day!!

By the way...how do i go about putting up a pic?

Wow u are going through so much and u are being very strong,been yrs ago I put my pic on here I think u just go to the profile and click on the pic icon and click upload an image (hope that helps ). I'm so utterly confused in my life right now ,I am still wanting to leave and praying as to where I should go,my time to leave is getting closer and closer and I can't wait but also scared to be on my own with my daughter ....but I'm taking it one day at a time and trying to move forward ,hope u r doing well today and that ur heart isn't so heavy with sadness

I know you have been hurt, but we are to remain humble and love no matter what. We are to seek out all ways to live in peace with others. Respond to him in love, even when it is hard. That all said, he should be pouring into you. Repairing the damage he did to you. What are you looking for in your marriage? Restoration? Reconciliation? What counseling are you doing together and separate? I am sorry you both are walking in this hurt and heaviness.

Brandi i am so sorry that you are hurting. I wish that i could say something to you to ease your hurt and pain but as i know all too well nothing anyone says will make you feel better. But God WILL make a way for you one way or the other. You just give it ALL to Him and he will guide your steps. And know that you have a friend here who truly cares about what you are going through...Hugs and know that i am here for you.

giaeve...You are so right...God blessed me with a loving and forgiving heart and i will continue to be there for my husband through these rough times. I have praying for God to give me the right words to use when my husband is feeling anger and so far it seems to be working better. What i am praying for in my marriage is for God to heal both of our broken hearts and mend our marriage. I dont want a divorce. I love my husband and i know he loves me but our past has definately come full circle to haunt us...more so him than i. Because i spent a lifetime in counseling working through my traumas. My husband never did. Thank you for your kind and gentle words. They mean so much.