Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
The split has been for almost a week now when he said he needed space because of our arguing when in reality he was in the dog house because I found out he was watching porn while I was home, and had 80+ videos in his phone he claims because us having sex only in the morning is not enough for him even though it was at least 4 times a week. So this is his reason but when I'm home come on, so I was hurt and doubting our relationship and I was lashing out.
After almost 2 weeks something else happened he deleted his search history suspicious and so I was hurt again. Long story short I didn't react the way he wanted in time he used my actions against me to say he now needs time took all of his stuff transferred his job close to his uncles and says he needs space. I have withdrawn and tried to be strong with him knowing that even if he does want to come home (not sure if he does) he is so proud he would never say anything. And I promised myself that I wouldn't beg him anymore,
My question is should I say something or make him live up to what he did and if he wants to come home make him tell me that? what do you guys think?
After almost 2 weeks something else happened he deleted his search history suspicious and so I was hurt again. Long story short I didn't react the way he wanted in time he used my actions against me to say he now needs time took all of his stuff transferred his job close to his uncles and says he needs space. I have withdrawn and tried to be strong with him knowing that even if he does want to come home (not sure if he does) he is so proud he would never say anything. And I promised myself that I wouldn't beg him anymore,
My question is should I say something or make him live up to what he did and if he wants to come home make him tell me that? what do you guys think?
Take this time and focus on yourself. List at least 3 things that YOU like, not things for him or about him, but things for you. It can be anything, food you like, activity you like, tv/movie/book/magazine you like, spa treatment, watch the rain/snow falling, take a walk in a pretty park, anything! And go do some of those things! Sometimes just taking care of ourself the right way, dating yourself if you will, brings a lot of clarity. You may realize that you don't actually want the relationship any more or that you don't like the way he treats you. At the very least, it will be good for your stress level right now to do some nice things for yourself.