Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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thamotivator 11/27/2011

Man, i am so friggen pissed off right now. I have not heard from my kids nor seen them in a week. In the past two weeks, i have only seen them once! I havent heard from her at all either. She has completely shut me out! i am stuck in my apartment all alone and she wont respond to any text and i dont want to call her just to piss her off. GGGRRRRR.... She emailed my aunt and told her why she left, but still hasnt told me. wtf is wrong? i am just trying to vent out some frustration. I just dont get it anymore. I miss them all soo much, and just cant bear this any longer. I am trying my ass off to show her that i am trying and changing. WTF does she want? She says she is done with us, but then says she doesnt know what she wants. Its chewing up inside my brain and turning it into mush. I NEED A CIGARETTE!!!! but i know i cant have one, because when i do, i will have to get another, and another, then the pack.... geeeze....

Teresabhopes 11/27/2011

Calm your mind, friend. Breathe deep. Think slow (like a marine).

You know her better than anyone. What is it that she needs right now? Is it space? Is it a loving (rather than prodding) message? The mind and heart of a woman is a complicated thing. She must be hurting. How did you win her in the first place? Was something lost that can be recaptured? Think about these things. Love moves mountains. Anger creates distance.

new2free 11/27/2011

So sorry for the anger and the pain!! As Teresa suggests, do some seriously deep breathing.
Breathe in some peace and breathe out the anger. Try to do some meditating to calm your mind. The anger is not going to help you or help your situation. It will only eat away at you.
Find a prayer or something to repeat over and over like a mantra. Maybe the serenity prayer

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
the strength to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference.

My prayers are with you.

thamotivator 11/27/2011

thank you both. I did pray about it earlier and felt a little better. I just am so confused and hurt... i miss them so much. She just walked out and said it is over. She never runs to me at all for anything, she goes to her parents. We never deal with any problems. sigh... i just dont know anymore. I love her and do not want anybody else but her, but do not want to keep going through this. i am getting thehelp that i need. what else is there or can i do??? I miss my two boys also. I have already been gone from work and the marines, now i cant even see them.... thank you for your support.

deleted_user 11/27/2011

I'm confused as to what you are doing to change since she has not given you a proper explanation. That must be difficult for you.

All you can do is give her the space she wants but somehow let her know you want to see your kids. Pick them up in neutral ground if it's easier for you two.

Tried couples counseling? Good luck to you and thanks for your service :)

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