I am feeling your pain. I am exactly where you are at. Hard for me to get out of bed also. But we have to because our survival depends on us moving forward. Nothing for us to do but try our best to heal ourselves and keep moving forward. I pray for you and all of us on here to heal and to succeed. God bless. Amen

Staying in bed, crying, thinking abt the ex, reading heartbreak stories, social network stalking...all of that is a ritual that you should indulge in as part of the early healing process. But it must end at some point. If you find yourself doing that for too long (how long is too long?) you've got to seek help.

We're all in this mess together and we're all here for each other. Im going through a painful heartbreak. But im forcing myself to get up, dress up and get out there. Slowly as you engage with the world it really does start to get better. But it WILL NOT get better if you stay in bed and let your thoughts get out of control.

You can do it! I know you can. the fact that you started this discussion means you can!

I really go up and down on the emotional roller coaster too. Mine was 25 years and very similar of stbx moving on "being the man he knows he can be" taking care of his friends.

Listening to podcasts and videos, says you know you are moving on when you have forgiven them and thank them. I do believe that he feels he is just being a good guy, I am no where close to being able to say thank you. Even though he felt I owed him one after he walked out on me and our children.

I am definitely not a poster child for this, but trying to remember to Love yourself and change your thinking of repeating the wonderful things about yourself, and retrain you mind and thinking that.

When something bad happens, you have three choices. You can either let it define you, destroy you, or you can let it strengthen you. Choose Strength and Stay Strong! Keep telling yourself that you are worth it, You're the one that counts.

I feel your pain as well. I am not feeling very positive today so I will be careful not to rant. Just know that you are not alone. Hang in there.

Try and find a divorce care group. Right now you need friends of the same sex, not opposite. There is a lot of good things in divorce care, and it does help. You can go and express yourself without any judgment. You were in a marriage for 18 years. It is going to take a while to get past this, but you will get past it. I promise. I pray you find some peace and comfort soon.

HI Brittany, you've had a tough time. I had a bad crash at about 4-6 months but seem to be coming out of it now. Still sad, but not devastated. I've been doing things to get out the house and out of my own head. A few hobbies, exercise. It all helps. You are strong you will get through this. Take care.

Thank you all for the kind words. I know I am just having a rough patch, but this rollercoaster of emotions that I have been on has to stop at some point. I do get up and keep going everyday, but It sure is hard to get out of bed, and feel happy.

To consider this just a rough patch is trivializing the tragic devastation you, like we, are going through. It is okay to be honest and allow yourself to grieve this painful loss. Show yourself some understanding when it comes to the difficult road ahead. It is a long one. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger and you will be stronger in the end. God bless.

idontmake is absolutely right

I am the same...19 years together

You can survive this....one day at a time

Please be patient and allow all the time you need

but get up...get clean and dressed
Eat
Go out
And above all ...talk to people...friends family
and get professional support

And us. We're here for you.