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jacksonone93 10/31/2011

I have a divorce question. I been trying to file an divorce with my wife fpr 3 months now. We been apart for 2 years. Separated. not even a phone call. I Not that I been hesitating to file it. I just don't have the income to file it. But now I have an okay paying job and just want her to just sign the paper and let me go. But she kinda got this If I can't have you, nobody will attitude. She won't respond to my phone calls or email or text. She refuse to sign it cause " it not right to leave of marriage" But it is okay to not to talk to me for two years? I don't get that one. If she sign the papers I can afford the divorce myself.I don't want anything from her. But since she won't t sign it. Then it get more expensive. What can I do? I just want this chapter to be over.BTW I come from a religious background. Divorce is heavily frown upon. My family and hers think we should work it out. My family is cheating on each other but refuse to divorce themself because " it is not right before God" What a joke. I
I'm dating a girl now and I told her that I'm been divorce now for an month. I really like this girl and what our relationship base on truth and honesty. Plus it is not right in God's eyes for me to be married and pursue women. What can I do.?

2newadvntrs 10/31/2011

Go to the courts and ask for a divorce packet, file it and serve it correctly.. They will grant you a divorce even if she is in disagreeance. If she refuses to sign you can still go forth with the divorce but you will be asked by the judge perhaps to advertise it in the papers for like 30 days depending on the state..If you do it all yourself it would be an easy divorce..Do disclose that you have been legally seperated for 2 years with no contact..
As far as God is concerned the marriage was over when you have stopped being in the marriage, physically and emotionally..God is a forgiving God and he has provided you with the proper person for you to be married to now..Get your divorce and make this one work..Families will get over it for your happiness and realize that alot has been wrong in this legal marriage but that is all it has been..No married bed together, etc, etc..and be happy pray that god give you strength and show you that this new one he has brought to your life is from him, and if so then by all means make a marriage..Experiance a real blessing that god has in store for you..

utterpain 10/31/2011

In most states you can get a divorce on grounds of desertion, meaning that the partner has been gone for over a year with no contact.
As for the girl you're dating - what are you thinking?! If you don't wait for the divorce to be final before you begin dating you run the risk of it being used against you in the divorce. Secondly, you're making her the other woman without her even knowing or agreeing to it. At some point it will come out that you are married. A relationship rooted in dishonesty is doomed from the start.
As much as you like the girl, you have to cut her free. She deserves someone who is legally single - you are not. And you lied to her about something HUGE. You need to be single until your divorce is final, or at the very minimum, be upfront and honest with anyone you date that you are still legally married.

deleted_user 10/31/2011

I wouldn't tell the girl you are dating that you are divorced, because you aren't. A man who is "separated" is very different from a divorced man. I wouldn't want your new girl to find out and feel like you lied.
Definitely talk to a lawyer. When I thought my EX was going to be difficult, I was looking at a 5,000 retainer. Since we worked out our "issues", by the time we actually divorced, it only cost 1,000.

deleted_user 10/31/2011

If a man leaves you for another woman, what difference does it make in the divorce? Leally Im wondering what can happen?

deleted_user 10/31/2011

I understand your reason for doing so, but the lie to the new woman is a bad thing, regardless.

If I found out I had been lied to about this, I would dump you, no matter what the reason.

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