I am so sorry basnime. I can only say we're all here for you, and that it will get better. Just make sure you are taking care of you. Once you do that, everything else will fall into place.

That's what everyone says. It was so nice to have someone by my side to get through the everyday things in life. It's cold and so lonely. Next week is Christmas and he won't even tell me what the plan is. I don't know how I'm going to pull Christmas off at all. Thank you for your support and the belief that everything will work out.

Just like you I have 2 kids, a dog , I work and my husband is with me in the house in the same bed and he has openly ask me for the divorce.....He is going thru the stage of anger and blame since he mentions that the ending of our marriage is due to ALL my faults. he hates to be even in his own skin and I don't know what to do since the smallest stuff triggers his anger....I am home because of the kids and of course because I love him but very very slowly I am thinking that maybe it just make sense to "Let GO".......I love him more than I can describe but he just does not feel........It is a horrible feeling

Eri I'm in the situation but I don't feel love for him anymore. I feel sorry for myself that I have to do everything on my own though once he moves out - like taking out trash, changing lightbulbs, shoveling snow.... Of course I feel rejected and a failure.... but love? I don't think I can love a man that did not put his best effort in this marriage and willing to break a family apart anymore.

Basnime I'm sorry your husband sounds like he abandoned the kids as well. But you need to power through it for your kids - they need you more than ever. My kids are younger and don't understand but when I am crying they just give me hugs and kisses and tell me everything will be ok and it makes the world of difference.

Koko he picks the kids up everyday and feeds them dinner and does homework. He has made it very clear that it is me he is leaving not them. I suppose it's the constant rejection. I've never felt so much pain. My heart and mind is heavy I'm falling asleep as I type. God help

Eri, it continues to be scary to me how many people here are feeling the same exact feelings I am feeling. My wife is angry all of the time. All of the time, and anything I say or do, be it nice, sarcastic, through tears, anything, makes her more and more angry. She literally blames me for everything, and my friends have asked me a million times why I would want to continue to be with someone who does this. As a matter of fact, she has asked me the same thing. And maybe I'm a fool (no maybe about it), but I just can't find it in myself to let go. My 6 year old has seen me really upset twice, and both times he has broken down into tears. I do my best to stay strong in front of the kids, but sometimes, she makes it impossible. I also stay in the house strictly for the kids, but part of me wants the marriage to return, and I feel if I leave, then that is truly the end of the road, which it likely is anyway. It's also hard to be kind when the other person thinks it's ok to yell at me in front of the kids, a lot of the time.

basnime, just because you feel rejection from one person, don't let that taint your view on yourself. He's obviously the one with the problem, and when you're ready, you'll be bale to find happiness. Maybe it will be alone at first, or maybe it will be alone for a while, but you just need to keep in mind that those kids need you, and just because you don't have someone by your side at the moment, it doesn't make you any less of a person, or any less of a mom to those children. I guarantee you they still look up to you every bit as much, if not more. It's their dad that will be feeling their scorn, and rightfully so. Hang in there.

That response makes me want to sob. It takes two to break a marriage and I accept my part. He blames me for everything. It's the week before Christmas and I'm so scared. The bills are piling so hide and he constantly threatens not to help. I'm in a waiting room literally wanting to curl up in a ball. My kids come home and him blaming me makes me feel so bad around them. His mother won't talk to me. Everyone runs away like I have the plague. Let me just get through this month.

Like I've said, one day at a time. Before you know it, it will be a year later and you will be so much happier. Honestly, that is going to happen. I understand your sadness, and I am right there with you. I keep thinking it will get better. Only issue is it hasn't quite yet. Crossing my fingers it will be soon. Crossing my fingers for you too.

The grief is debilitating. I completely understand. My husband blindsided me with the news that he was unhappy last week and he wants to leave after Christmas. Then I found out he's been talking to a coworker who was "helping him through it". How do you get past that? I'm sitting here in a house that needs cleaned and children that need taken care of, and I just want to roll into a ball and cry. How do you get through it?

I don't know my husband did the same thing. He still lives with us but out of town now. Trying to take care of kids without breaking down has been a challenge. I already yelled at them for now doing what they're supposed to do...

I can't believe other human beings could be so cruel. I know none of us are perfect but we would have never done what they have. It hurts so badly. I do the bare minimum for housework. It hurts to breath sometime

Hello. I’m so sorry for your struggles. I think the best way you can show your boys how much you care is to care for them no matter how you feel. Having emotions is normal and it’s okay to be sad. Is there someone you can talk to about how you're feeling? Maybe a counselor or a trusted friend? Your boys are a gift from God to treasure. The gift of raising them has been entrusted to you, and this alone is a reason for joy. Are there any men in the boys' lives, such as a coach or an uncle, who could spend some time with them, even it's just for ice cream or a walk. They may be walking through some difficult emotions, too.

Be strong from them so that they become strong men. You have an opportunity to teach them how to be the best fathers they can be by demonstrating your love in caring from them, even when you don’t feel like it. Love is something you do, it is not something you feel. And caring for them will fill you with the ultimate joy.

make ur kids ur strength make them what keeps u going everyday then u will do it automaticaly

I will make my boys the reason I go on. They are so sweet and kind but they're growing tired. My stbx has them everyday after school. He feeds them and does homework just as if he were here. It breaks my heart to know he doesn't love me anymore..

Yes that's the hard part for me as well. It is nice my husband still cares for the kids but sad that he didn't think to work on our relationship. But I am tired of crying and wondering why he doesn't love me.