Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
hello all. I am new to this but maybe some advice from anyone can help. I've been with my husband for 20+ years married for almost 11 yrs. We have 4 children of our own and we adopted my niece when she was a baby she's almost a teen now. Then about 3 and half months ago I got custody temporary of my baby niece who's 6 months now. Fighting to adopt her. My husband was very happy to get the baby this is what he wanted. Just about 3 weeks ago my husband tells me he isn't in love with me anymore his feelings have changed that he has been feeling like this for a long time. He said he felt lonely emotionally. That we just grew a part. I tried to stay calm but my heart just broke in half. How is it that he felt lonely I tried so hard to get him to do stuff board games with the kids or going to parks anything to do things together and he wouldnt . he would spend his whole time on his phone texting. When I asked him about it he would get defensive. So he went to stay at a friends when he left me and 4 days later he texts me saying what if he's making a mistake so he wanted to try it out again he didn't do anything to try and fix our marriage he was still texting a lot or he would go to a "friends" house and come home late he said he was just hanging out when I asked him about it. I told him he isn't trying then he tells me 2 days later that his feelings haven't changed that he's still not happy here that he needs to leave so he packed his clothes and left. I cried so much for him begged him and promised to make things right but he doesn't want to. Recently my baby niece was admitted to the hospital and he told me he was talking to someone that he's moving on. That I need to let him go. How can he just go and find someone that fast after 2 1/2. Weeks of being separated. Then yesterday I just found out the girl he's with now was a friend of ours we went to school with. This whole time we were together she was on our Facebook. She would like my pics she even commented the other day on a post of my baby being ill . he told me he didn't mean for this to happen but I wonder has he been talking to her even before. She was my friend.
Next I'll say this - that other woman is a foolish, stupid moron of a human being.
I'm no relationship expert. But I have learned one thing.
If they'll do it with/for you, they'll do it TO you. You can bet on it. May take 2 weeks, may take 10 years, but you can bet on it. And when the honeymoon periods over, they're both going to deal with trust issues and wondering if it's happening to them too.
You'll get support here, and I'm sorry people exist in this world who obviously have no morals or respect for themselves.
Hugs.
There are a lot of people here that can offer support so please keep posting. No matter what the issue is we are here for you!
Big Hugs to you!
I wasn't the perfect wife I made mistakes when I was younger so did he. We been through so much together.he's so worried about me messing up our friendship cause he wants to stay friends he still comes around to see his kids he's a good dad that's one thing I can say. But its hard to not wanna yell at him or hit him or curse him out or even curse out my so called friend. I try and stay calm with a smile on my face. My kids mean the world to me and I try so hard for them....
And sometimes stuff happens in life and people move on, but...you end one relationship before starting another. Especially when families are involved.
They have no integrity.
You can hold your head up, be a good mom to your kids, and look forward to a new future.
Things get emotionally sucky at times, but there is better out there for you.
Just get yourself an attorney and make sure your family is taken care of financially.
Just don't discuss anything with him. He is not your friend, ally or anything else right now.
Just let me add that I found this forum before I told any of my friends or family & it helped me sooooo much. HUGGSSSSS