Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Can't complaint i have been doing okay. I have struggled some, but not as bad. Today though I am back stuck in my head obsessing. Obsessing on the “whys” and blaming myself for everything. My ex-husband and I had a great conversation about two days ago. We talked about our jobs and the struggles cause we are both in public safety. I did well at not talking about his “second family” I like I normally refer to. I talked about our children struggling for him to not really understand. He doesn’t listen to me when I talk about our children struggling. He thinks I plant it all in their heads. Which is crazy seeing how I have done nothing but accommodate to him. He had a whole other family before he came out and told me he wanted a divorce. I accepted him not wanting our children to meet her but then had to give him and allow her to meet my kids because my daughter was very inquisitive. He even told me he felt it was to soon for our kids to meet his girlfriend and kids. I have talked to his girlfriend putting boundaries that I am not some background mom but that I am very involved. She told me I needed to respect her and while sometimes she feels bad for the situation she knows we all can move on and hopefully be friends. I keep replaying that over and over. The respect I showed her was allowing her to meet my children, was handing my husband on a silver platter to her because my depression had gotten out of control and I pushed him away. Now I can’t talk to him at all. If he is at work then I can get a response but if not he talks to me like a dog or not at all. Almost like he has to prove he wouldn’t cheat on her. Sad thing she really had the nerve to tell me her ex husband was found with another woman. So my ex husbands girlfriend knows what it feels like. So please explain to me after almost 9months I still want him back?? I want my family and I miss the weight next to me on our bed. I miss him so much and I don’t want to. I am not a hateful person and I DO NOT want to hate him but I am tired of feeling guilty and feeling that I am the sole reason my marriage ended, but I blame myself and have no worth.
