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cantstay2 10/20/2011

today is my 23rd wedding anniversary and I have a consultation with a divorce attorney. How sad is that?

I know deep down that even though I love my husband, it is not a healthy love. Neither of us get from the marriage what we feel we should. I will be stronger, healthier, and happier once it is all said and done and I am on the other side, but for now, I am sad.

playerapr 10/20/2011

Im so sorry for your pain. The 1st time my stbx mentioned the D word it was a week before our 10 yr anniversary and on the day of he went out with his friends and was out until about 5am while I was at home with the kids.
Take your time to grieve and mourn that loss, cry today if you need to cause tomorrow is another day, should treat yourself to a good lunch or dinner with a friend.

sadwone 10/20/2011

I too, am sorry for your pain. My 20th wedding anniversary is right around the corner and I know the pain you feel. Grieving the loss of all that you thought would be. Grieving the possibilities that are now dashed. Faced with the challenges you never imagined you's be face with. I so understand how you feel and hope that you are able to make it through this day the best you can. Good luck with the lawyer and stay strong!

deleted_user 10/20/2011

I understand your pain. The first couple of anniversaries after we had made the decision to separate and divorce were painful and sad. My anniversary is tomorrow, and this is the first time in years where I don't feel sad or upset. I don't really feel anything because the day no longer holds a big significance for me. That day will come for you too, but it takes time.

Be kind and gentle to yourself today. Take a moment out of your day to do something nice for yourself, just because you, as an individual, are important. and remember everyone on this site understands and is here for you.

whiskeytangofoxtrot 10/20/2011

((hugs))

Tomorrow is(would be) mine, 17 years! And I don't know how I feel about it yet?

deleted_user 10/20/2011

Hugs to everyone on this thread.

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