Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Today I decided t be the better person, my stbx of 24 years and father of our two children 17 years and 20 years old the oldest is in college and lives at home I work over time to pay his college payment so he can focus on his education and help out while I am at work. Well Stbx has been in and out of the house for 6 years , several affairs that he claims only for attention however the last one that I am aware of he did say he stayed at her house a few time and slept in the guest room ( yeah right and I am Donald Trump ) Each time he has not been in the house I have blocked his phone number so he can not text or call the kids, I don't want the kids to worry about his text or him coming by I want them to heal and move forward. Well everytime stbx says he does not have contct with the kids because I blocked his number and he wants to hear it from them that I have brain washed them against him. Um no your actions proved your true colors so stop passing the blame to me. Well I know the kids are strong enough and smart that if I gave stbx an inch by agreeing for him to text or call them that they will handle it well by either blocking him themself's or not respondingand I let stbx know if at any point the kids feel uncomfortable I am blocking him again. There are rules and if he breaks them he is blocked. I am sure the kids will tell him how it is and then he will get the same answer as I gave him from the kids and they have no problem telling him how they feel. So I gave him an inch and he will not take a foot this time. I know what stbx is doing he is trying to get his foot back in the door, he starts a new job at last on Monday and it is an hour away from his mothers house he thinks if he lived at home it is closer to him and we could work on the marriage and he could work on a relationship with the kids, um too late for that stbx. So the kids agreed sure let him text but they dont have to respond or will tell him how it is. So there ya go stbx you asked for it well you got it dont say I did not warn you. I am being pro active, carefull and I am not going to budge past an inch. I did not come this far to be back where I was with pain, regret and if I could kick myself.
