Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hello ladies,
I have been in this group for a very short period of time and I am still amazed how many of you seem to have an ex with the same characteristics as mine. So to avoid recommending this book individually in each discussion, I'm just going to throw it out there for all to see. The book is called Men Who Hate Women And The Women Who Love Them by Dr. Susan Forward.
You should get this book if you experienced any of the following, but not necessarily all of them:
-Does the man you love assume the right to control how you live and behave?
-Have you given up important activities or people to keep him happy?
-Is he extremely jealous and possessive?
-Does he switch from charm to anger without warning?
-Does he belittle your opinions, your feelings, or your accomplishments?
-Does he try to isolate you from his friends or your friends?
-Does he withdraw love, money, approval, or sex to punish you?
-Does he blame you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship?
-Do you find yourself walking on eggs and apologizing all the time?
-Does he play mind games like denying conversations happened to make you feel crazy?
-Does he try to make you feel like a horrible, miserable person to be around?
If the questions here reveal a familiar pattern, you may be in love with a misogynist a man who loves you, yet causes you tremendous pain because he acts as if he hates you.
In this superb self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the voices of men and women trapped in these negative relationships to help you understand your mans destructive pattern and the part you play in it.
She shows how to break the pattern, heal the hurt, regain your self-respect, and either rebuild your relationship or find the courage to love a truly loving man.
This book opened my eyes in a way I can't even describe. So much of my pain was the result of not understanding why my ex was doing the things he was doing to me. I promise it will blow you away and give you the answers to "why". It won't heal all your pain, but it will give you the insight you need to help understand how you got here and why you need to just let him go. He is a damaged soul and will likely never change. Be glad you are done with him.
If anyone here identifies with this book, feel free to contact me and I can recommend another that will help you with you. The book recommended above is to help you see his contribution to the relationship, the next is to help you see your side. I hope this book helps someone else just as it helped me. I read it cover to cover in one afternoon and I have never done that with any book before!
Take care of yourselves ladies! You deserve the best in love and life!
I have been in this group for a very short period of time and I am still amazed how many of you seem to have an ex with the same characteristics as mine. So to avoid recommending this book individually in each discussion, I'm just going to throw it out there for all to see. The book is called Men Who Hate Women And The Women Who Love Them by Dr. Susan Forward.
You should get this book if you experienced any of the following, but not necessarily all of them:
-Does the man you love assume the right to control how you live and behave?
-Have you given up important activities or people to keep him happy?
-Is he extremely jealous and possessive?
-Does he switch from charm to anger without warning?
-Does he belittle your opinions, your feelings, or your accomplishments?
-Does he try to isolate you from his friends or your friends?
-Does he withdraw love, money, approval, or sex to punish you?
-Does he blame you for everything that goes wrong in the relationship?
-Do you find yourself walking on eggs and apologizing all the time?
-Does he play mind games like denying conversations happened to make you feel crazy?
-Does he try to make you feel like a horrible, miserable person to be around?
If the questions here reveal a familiar pattern, you may be in love with a misogynist a man who loves you, yet causes you tremendous pain because he acts as if he hates you.
In this superb self-help guide, Dr. Susan Forward draws on case histories and the voices of men and women trapped in these negative relationships to help you understand your mans destructive pattern and the part you play in it.
She shows how to break the pattern, heal the hurt, regain your self-respect, and either rebuild your relationship or find the courage to love a truly loving man.
This book opened my eyes in a way I can't even describe. So much of my pain was the result of not understanding why my ex was doing the things he was doing to me. I promise it will blow you away and give you the answers to "why". It won't heal all your pain, but it will give you the insight you need to help understand how you got here and why you need to just let him go. He is a damaged soul and will likely never change. Be glad you are done with him.
If anyone here identifies with this book, feel free to contact me and I can recommend another that will help you with you. The book recommended above is to help you see his contribution to the relationship, the next is to help you see your side. I hope this book helps someone else just as it helped me. I read it cover to cover in one afternoon and I have never done that with any book before!
Take care of yourselves ladies! You deserve the best in love and life!
Not a big fan of labels, a relationship is either healthy, or not, and if it's toxic, labeling whatever your partner is, or has, may give you a better understanding of who they are, but it also lets you play a little too much victim for my tastes.
I'd recommend "The Four Agreements".
They are what I try to live by. Small book, hard read, but if you master what's in there (I'm not even close) life will be better.
The Four Agreements is a good read as I have read it a very long time ago. But at the same time, the best read is the one you feel and see inside.